So, I dated this guy 15 to 17 years ago and we were pretty serious for 2 years. We kind of ended badly....which I have really never done with my old serious bo's. So, it has always weighed on me that it ended that way. I think about him often.... I mean several times a week. I am married and I know he is married... but, I always wonder if I should call him just to say hi and see how he is doing. Not cuz, I want to start anything romantic, but just because. Do you think he would think it is totally weird to hear from me? Do you think he would even want to hear from me? Should I bother trying to look him up??
2007-01-29 06:56:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, dont do it..
2007-01-29 07:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by expensv_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't call or try to look him up. A lot of water has passed under the bridge for you both since then. You know he's married and you should act like you know you are. There isn't anything to be gained in contacting this guy. Badly or not, it ended. Let it be ended. What are you thinking your going to let him down gently now that you've both moved on?
2007-01-29 07:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by crazy_no_unique_yes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is no. How will contacting him positvely impact your life currently? Would your husband be thrilled that you are contacting an old boyfriend? Would his wife be thrilled about you contacting her husband? What if you do contact him and he's rude and dismissive? What if you contact him and he says he loves you and wants to get back together? And ask yourself honestly why you even feel the need to contact somone you haven't talked to in almost 20 years, are you seeking some sort of closure?
I think you should consider all these questions first and then you'll have your answer.
2007-01-29 07:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by JT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'd recommend you consider this as a passing thought and not call your former boyfriend. What purpose would it serve? It's likely that it would send a mixed message anyway and could potentially cause problems for you (and your current husband) as well as his marital relationship. Your conscience may be trying to ensure you learned a lesson from the breakup, but I don't think it's incumbent upon you to call and acknowledge the same. Consider whether you'd appreciate your husband's former girlfriend calling him to see how he was doing. I'll bet you'd read alot into it if that happened. For that reason, I wouldn't call if it were me.
2007-01-29 07:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you really trying to do? You need to be honest. Is this something you'd regret from your deathbed??? Unless you are all about making amends in other places in your life and doing some kind of ethical clean up, you are fantasizing and entertaining trouble.
2007-01-29 07:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO: Don't go anywhere near this ex bo. Everything you said is good indication that your action will lead to bad things happening.
2007-01-29 07:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by whatevit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look him up. You said your married and he is married, life goes on. Lets say you call him and he mentions it to his wife, guess what they are going to get in a fight over it, no matter what the conversation was. Trust me, it happened to me.
2007-01-29 07:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by UT FAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone, it will just cause problems in your relationship or his. I wouldn't want some old girlfriend calling my husband. Would you?
2007-01-29 07:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop it
If your husband or his wife hears of this it could open a big can of worms.
2007-01-29 07:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have an ex boyfriend that i think about all the time and i want to call him also..dont know his #.. but if i did and my husband found out about it he would kill me.
2007-01-29 07:06:36 · answer #10 · answered by bronxgirl2777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Its over, get over it...dont call him. It will look bad to your family and could cause problems in his.
2007-01-29 07:00:33 · answer #11 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋