I've noticed a pattern of my boyfriend's behaviour, which I would like to understand. We're in a long-distance relationship right now but our plan is to move closer to each other.Every time, he's feeling upset about something like his job or if he's feeling down or unhappy, he's telling me how much he needs to make love to me? He starts to tell me that he needs me and how upset he's that he cannot make love to me at that time. Since he has lost his promotion 3 weeks ago, he has been pretty low and most of his messages are about how much he wants me and how it is upsetting that I am so far and that he needs to make love to me?
Whenever we are together, we both enjoy making love a lot! Normally he does not express this kind of frutstruation but lately he has been tellking me how upset he is with the distance. I am starting to worry if it means that he wants to have sex with someone nearby or if it simply means he misses me! I dont want to make him feel rejected by a wrong reaction?
2007-01-29 06:51:15 · 15 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Last night he listed all the drawbacks of being in a long-distance relationship with me, he said we hardly ever see each other, it's always hard to organise a meeting, I don't speak his language, we communicate in English. He is coming to see me in 2 weeks and we have a targe to move closer to each other within the next 6 months but he is now saying all these things to me?
2007-01-29 06:52:42 · update #1
He is insecure. You stated that when you are together, you make love allot. Sometimes for a man, making love is a way of feeling security, though only temporarily. At a time when he is probably feeling all of the walls falling on him, he is looking to you to pick him up and make him feel secure with your wisdom, and of course your touch. I hardly would believe he is looking for someone else to be with, (though he may). I would just support him and make him feel needed in the way he seeks. Sounds like he is in desperation, and reaching for you. If it is any thing else, you will find out shortly.
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2016-12-03 04:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just sounds like he misses you a lot and is looking forward to being together. I wouldn't say there are any signs he will cheat. Long distance relationships are hard but it will be woth it in the end!
2007-01-29 07:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by tiffin8013 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but he could be preparing to end the relationship by listing all the hard things! I have had two long distant relationships - one did not work out. The second has, we are very happy but one of you has to move to be near the other - it will show the commitment.
2007-01-29 08:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is "sex" such a big thing with him, he may be using it to put pressure on you. Don't let him. You don't say how far apart you are, but I think he may be using the distance as an excuse and justification for having sex elsewhere.
2007-02-01 08:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by lynn a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think he really misses u and i thank that u should get to him soon b4 some other person does and he should not just think about having sex with u all the time he needs to think about how u guys r going to get closer
2007-01-29 07:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by mdsp35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds needy. There could be a very good explanation though, depression. He might have it even when things are good. Sometimes when I'm low getting affection makes me feel better...a lot better. Seems he self medicates with affection.
2007-01-29 07:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi it sounds like ur man is just missing you,its a normal reaction to have when ur far from the one you love, he sounds like he loves u so u dont need to worry about him straying,also he has his little insecurities but that will pass with time, u will see in time when you both have moved closer together. goodluck
2007-01-29 06:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by Don 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All your energy is in what is he doing/thinking. What about you and your needs/feelings/thoughts? I hate to say this but he sounds a little manipulative here as you may begin to feel a little guilty. Sex is not love. Big Big difference.
2007-01-29 08:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he may be depressed and down... Have him talk to a doctor and seek medical help and attention for this... They also may put him on medication to help him as well... You need to be there for him and support him through this and be an encouragement to and for him.
2007-01-29 07:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋