the first two i lost at around 4 weeks and this one was 9 weeks, i feel like a complete failure and no matter what my partner says it doesnt help! can anyone help in any way please?
2007-01-29 06:41:45 · 11 answers · asked by pinkjessie 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i have a 7 1/2yr old son with a previous partner, but these miscarriages have all been with my new partner of 3yrs over the last 2yrs, if that makes sense?
2007-01-29 19:54:06 · update #1
I have lost 4 pregnancies between 16 and 18 weeks, going back 10 years. I can tell you the dates and the two that were at 18 weeks the sexes. I always remember those days and the hurt does get less. But I know that they were lost because something wasn't right. I am now 21 weeks and all looks well, I conceived while on the pill and I have PCOS. I know this one was gods will. You just need to know it is nothing you did wrong and it will happen for you and that will start to lessen the pain. I also sought out groups in my area. I live in GA and a lot of the pregnancy service centers offer classes/groups on miscariage with others who have been through it.
Also talk to your doctor and plan your next attempt the them, them may be able to do things from the start to prevent this from happening again.
2007-01-29 07:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by PLJNYC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's some info. you may find helpful:
I not only had a miscarriage (20 yrs. ago), but I had a difficult time conceiving. My mother introduced me to her neighbor/midwife, who shared some priceless info., with me. The midwife informed me that many miscarriages/infertility can be due to a vitamin E definciency. So, she recommended 400 units aday, prior to trying getting pregnant and continue during the pregnancy. She also daily recommended a couple capsules of Red Raspberry leaves (strengthens the uterus), too. Since then, I never had another miscarriage or difficulty getting pregnant and now have 3 kids. I shared this info. 15 yrs. ago, with clientele of mine, whom was spotting during here pregnancy, she took the recommendation and 3 days later her spotting subsided.
I hope you find the comfort you're searching for!
2007-01-29 07:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your fault! It is no ones fault. You must allow yourself to grieve, though. I know you are in pain and understandably so.
My sister lost 4 before she had my niece. The doctors didn't know to look for something called "anticardial lipin antibodies" in her blood that caused these miscarriages. Thank God she told me! I told my doc and she tested me for it and it turned out I have it too. All I had to do was take one baby asprin a day for the first 2 trimesters. I delivered a healthy little girl.
Perhaps this is your problem and the docs don't know to look for it? It couldn't hurt to ask, huh?
Take care.
2007-01-29 06:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im very very sorry for your loss, I am always carrying this fear around with me. I would suggest you and the father both go get a genetic test, there may be something going on that you are unaware of. My husband has something called a balance translocation and this can cause difficulties to a healthy baby and healthy pregnancy. They will be able to help you in your quest of having a healthy baby. Good luck and god bless!!
2007-01-29 06:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by emg2528 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need grief counseling. Are you using a fertility specialist who specializes in treating women prone to miscarriages?
I have a dear friend who had 4 miscarriages. After that, she had 4 healthy boys all of whom became professionals. One is a now a heart surgeon.
2007-01-29 06:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A miscarriage is nature's way of saying that there is something wrong with the baby and it will not survive outside the mothers womb. I believe that the babies are angels and God wants them with him. Being a parent is a very important and special job and God has a perfect baby picked out for you. When that one comes he will let you keep it. It will hurt no matter what. I pray that God gives you peace about it.
2007-01-29 06:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by just me and my crew 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
your not a faliure it isnt your fault bad things sometimes happen and noone knows why nobody can make it not hurt as much no matter what anyone says its still going to hurt but you have to let yourself feel the pain so you can get through it and let go we will never know or understand why these things have to happen sometimes, but know that its nones fault and the pain wont last forever good luck and god bless
2007-01-29 06:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go here and talk with other women in the same situations.
http://www.babycenter.com/boards/bcuspreggrief
Also I would talk to your Dr. and see if there is an reacurring issue... ie. ncompatent Cervix. (that what I have.)
Only time can help... also you should have a service for your lose.
2007-01-29 06:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
warm bath and ibprofen, also take to your doctor about a DNC, and see if he can figure out why you keep losing the baby. i too have lost babies. and a good friend told me that naturally my body got rid of it because something was terribly wrong with the child, then i found out i had cancer got that problem fixed and was able to have kids i have 2 now keep your chin up and pray
2007-01-29 06:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyessly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im sorry for your losses give it time your heart will heal and maybe the next time you get pregnant you will carry to term and have a healthy beautiful baby
2007-01-29 06:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋