My girlfriends invited me to go out to dinner, and I think that they also invited another girl that I don't speak to anymore and I haven't seen her in years. We use to be bestfriends and we got into a nasty argument one day and we never spoke to eachother after that. We have mutual friends and everyone knows we don't speak any more, but I don't think they want to leave any of us out, so I don't know, should I go? And if I do, what should I do? Ignore her or be friendly?
2007-01-29 06:34:45 · 11 answers · asked by Life Is Amazing 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Go because the dinner is not about her, it's about your mutual friend. Just talk enough to be polite but don't go out of your way to mend things or seem overbearing.
2007-01-29 06:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I definately think you should go. Don't leave yourself out. Your other friends obviously want you there, and couldnt see having a good time without you :) And I'm big on reacting on how things feel at the moment, so when you see your friend whom you got in the argument with, dont push anything. Try to be as friendly as you can, and if she reacts badly towards you, to the point where you cant take it, you need to let her know. Pull her aside for a second and say something like "you know, im sorry that we havent had the best friendship in a while, but I'm really trying here, and I want things to be better between us again." Or something along those lines. Basically just try to be the bigger person, she may or may not have gotten over everything yet. Good luck, and have fun babe! YOU BETTER GO!! :)
2007-01-29 14:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by shelb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you two still don't speak to each other, but best friends are rare and precious. When you reflect on all the positive aspects of the friendship you two had, does it really matter who was at fault years ago, or what the argument was about? If the friendship can be restored, both of you will be happier.
Your girlfriends, whether intentionally or not, have given you an opportunity to regain what you've lost, so take it. When you see her, tell her that it's time for you to forgive each other for the pain you caused one another and that you want to be friends again.
My best wishes to you both. I'd love to know how it woks out.
2007-01-29 15:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by roxburger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go. They invited you. Also, just keep cool. Be the bigger one in the situation. Be friendly, but don't be fake. And don't give her the cold shoulder. You are bigger than that. Don't be low and start being a b*tch just because of stuff years ago.
2007-01-29 14:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go because i once had this friend and well she did something very awful to me because i told her to mind her own business.maybe this ex-friend or whatever is up to something and if so. you'll want pay back and trust me it doesn't make you feel any better when you step as low as them.
2007-01-29 15:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe you to should start being friends again i mean no stays mad at anyone forever. that is what happened to me and one of my friends. then one day we got back together and started being best frinds again. and that was 2 years ago.
2007-01-29 14:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the dinner and be friendly
2007-01-29 15:43:12 · answer #7 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was the argument any way. go and talk about why they had the argument and then both of you forget it ever happen.
2007-01-29 14:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by fullmetal eva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wld b beta if u go, coz if u dnt it wld b as if u r scared of her. nd jst act normal. b friendly.
2007-01-29 14:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go and try to be nice to her and everyone else be the bigger person
2007-01-29 14:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by MANDI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋