Two of my neighbors have concocted vicious lies about me. It is beyond ridiculous and very hurtful. HELP?

Question

I am not certain what to do. One neighbor came last week and entered my home & accused me of:
a. Having multiple affairs (because i have a male friend whom i occasionally go out for coffee with - my husb and i also double date with he and his wife!)
b. Being a prostitute (WTH?)
c. Running an illegal business out of my home
d, Being a member of a nudist colony (I am a member of the SCA and we have meetings on Wed nights)

These two women are beyond vicious. I am a stay at home mom, substitute teacher, and officer in the PTA! None of these RIDICULOUS and vicious lies are true.
Problem is, I am nice. I explained to this woman for two hours how false these lies were and offered her proof. I know that was ridiculous to do, but I am a NICE PERSON (apparently, rare in our neighborhood).
One of these women is an avid "christian", and that makes me ill to even think about. what is SHE thinking?

So, what do I do? How can I hold them accountable w/o sinking to their level?

Both of them have children who are DEAR Friends of my son and I don't want the children to suffer because of their mothers being this way.

I pick one of the kids up on a regular basis from school and keep him as a favor and THIS is how they think of me? OMG!

oh
can you tell i am not the most assertive or person around? :)

YOU ARE ALL MAKING ME FEEL SO MUCH BETTER!!!
The first thing I did was tell my husband, whom I had to call down - he wanted to go talk to them both right then. Second thing I did was tell my mother, who laughed hysterically.

HI!
SCA Stands for Society for Creative Anachronism. We are a bunch of friendly geeks who like to study and re-enact medieval times. :)

Answer 1

You should call the police on one of their husbands and claim he is a pedophile. when he is gone set her house on fire and claim you saw the other neighbor sneaking around their house that night. Don't take any crap from those swine.

Answer 2

Do nothing, if you know that the rumors are not true and everyone else knows that they are not true who cares. These woman obviously have nothing better to do but come up with lies to make their lives seem better. May be you should ask them what is so wrong with their lives that they feel they need to spread lies about you to feel better about themselves. These women have a disease and it's gossip. Everyone does it, some more than others and to different degrees. Most of the time it's just because they see something that is good and they don't have it so they make false reasons to down what the wish they had. It sounds like you husband is very understanding and feels comfortable with friends of the opposite sex. They may not have that. So in short don't worry so much what they think. This probably isn't the first time they have made rumors about someone and most people who know them know this.

Answer 3

I would tell my husband all about it. Let the chips fall where they may. I might even ask your husband if he would consider talking to the husband you were allegedly "having an affair with." Ask him to be kind but firm. This woman has some mental problems.
(I have no idea what is SCA). Being nice to these women won't help you. They are vicious losers who need to get a life. Also, I'm guessing that they are jealous of you. From now on, please insist that they call ahead of time if they plan to come visit you. Make sure your husband is home at the time. If the vicious b!tches can't speak freely in front of him, then they don't belong in your home.

Answer 4

Wow, this is something out of a series! LOL. I almost can't believe it! It sounds obvious to me that these women are jealous of you. You have already attempted to deny their allegations, so at this point I would not do anything else unless they do something like damage your property or threaten you in any way. At that point I would get the police and a lawyer involved. My own personal theory is that your actions are going to speak louder than their words, and people who know you and the work you do are not going to think too much about what these women say. In fact, they may wonder that if you're such a bad person, why would these women let their kids into your home? My guess is that you are not the only one in the neighborhood who knows these two women are nuts. I definitely would NOT trust them and would not allow your son to go over to their house without you around. Please do not put up with this abuse in order to keep your son's playmates in his life. It is important for you to stick up for yourself when assaulted (yes, that means verbally too) and to protect yourself and your family.

Answer 5

First off there's no reason you have to prove anything to these women. Their accusations are false. Period. End of Sentence. Even if they were true, it's none of their business. As long as you aren't doing anything illegal, they don't have a leg to stand on. This woman isn't nearly as Christian as she is pretending to be. That isn't a Christian attitude at all.

You don't have to hold them accountable. God has already taken care of that for you. Rest assured, they WILL get "theirs".

I was PTA officer for a number of years, and I can tell you it's really easy to piss somebody off when you don't even realize it's happening. It sounds like this may have happened to you. Just because these women are "neighbors" doesn't mean you have to associate with them. And definitely don't invite them in for coffee.

Answer 6

You should do the following:
a. next time your male friend picks you up, meet him at the door and plant a big kiss right on his mouth. Use tongue.
b. make sure he holds some cash up in the air and wave it around like a crazy man before handing it to you. You look around as if you are making sure no one is watching and THEN let him inside.
c. Create some "pot brownies" and "crack pies" flyers promoting your new "bakery" business and give to your neighbor friends.
d. Walk around nude in your backyard.

If this does not work then just ignore them. They are all probably wishing it was true so you could hook them up.

Answer 7

The only thing I could suggest is that you need to stay away from those two...you've tried your reasonings with them and they are oblivious of it. so you need to move on without their presence...if they still start some kind of a mess...then you need to get the law involved, it is harassment and slandering...there are some legal things that could be done...you'll have to research on them though, as to what your locale will provide as a solution. In most cases, there are court ordered restraints that can be placed. If they go against it, then you have every right to sue them for defamation and slandering.

Sounds to me that your busy-body neighbors are doing nothing but trying to get to the center of attention. is that a positive thing for you?? Obviously not - and You need to move on away from them. To be judgmental, is being hypocritical. They have no right to judge you. They have to either accept you as a neighbor and mind their own or else get a social life elsewhere.

Answer 8

Have a verbal change with the mothers and fathers of both youthful boys and clarify to them the problem their sons have encountered with a particular neighbor via their biracial upbringing. A pleasant guy to guy communicate with this overbearing father will be merely what's mandatory to relax down his frame of mind earlier his racist attitudes are showing up everywhere. also remind this man or woman who bullying is now no longer tolerated in colleges and if his habit would not improve, you'd be forced to convey it up on the subsequent PTA assembly. that ought to get his interest.

Answer 9

A Squirrel rifle full of rocksalt is what I would have given someone who came into my home and spoke to me that way. I would do everything in my power to drive that b@tch out and get better neighbors. The next time she says something like this, smack her hard enough she'll need dentures. Oh, and get a big, barking dog. This'll keep the b@tch off your property.

Answer 10

If you truely are a Nice Person, i have one thing to say in this situation: Kill 'Em With Kindness. I had a situation like this at school once. I got an excellent kick out of it, to see the look on their face after they said something mean to you or about you, and then in reply to their petty lies, you say somthing extremely nice or compliment their look or just something really really nice.

Answer 11

This is not something you want to let go. These people could ruin your reputation in the community.

If they do not stop this immediately, I would go to an attorney and have him write them a letter telling them that if they do not stop you will obtain a restraining order, and they will be liable for damages if it continues past that.

Be sure you know it is continuing before you do this, because it's going to make them mad as wet hens and create more conflict. But if you have to do it in order to shut them up, do it.