New job....scary?

Question

Im going to be starting a new job on wednesday. Ive had only four jobs in my lifetime and i still havent learned how to make new friends at work properly. Im usually really shy which makes people think im a *****. So my question is if you had been working somewhere and a new person got hired how would you like them to act for you to be friendly and open up to them and possible become friends?

Answer 1

Just smile and say hello. Don't try to jump into conversations. Eventually the chatterbox of the office will start talking to you. Just talk to here, smile, but don't talk too long. Eventually other people will start talking to you, and then you're off.

There are some situations where people are simply not into small talk. If that's your situation then grin and bear it. Everyone wants to know you're part of the overall team - it might take a little while to get there but eventually you will.

Answer 2

I know it may seem frustrating... but not as much as U may think.
Two weeks ago I started my new job... and I don't regret it. People are better than they seem :) but it's right not to try tomake friends where you work. If some co-workers become your friends eventually, that's great! Still you are here to do your duties, and you are not a 100-dollar bill to be liked by all :D
Being yourself is a perfect scenario, too. Just love your job as much as you can, and maybe some colleagues and the boss will love U. It must come naturally.

Answer 3

Just concentrate on doing a good job first. The rest will come in time. People will be curious about you, and probably invite you to lunch at some point. In my experience, if I do a good job, people warm up to me and want to be my friend. Don't get in with the gossipers. That's the worst thing you can do. Be picky about who you become friends with at work. It's a two way street, and you have a wonderful opportunity to meet new people who You want to be friends with. All the best!

Answer 4

Rule #1 - don't rush things. I've had many jobs in my lifetime and in fact just started a new one at the end of November. Meeting new folks is never easy. I tend to be quiet as well, but I try my hardest to be the best darned coworker someone would ever want. People will warm up to you if you are helpful and considerate. Just give it some time....

Answer 5

Just be friendly. Dont be afraid to talk to them and ask for some help with whatever your tasks are. They'll probally be glad to give it to you and you'll get to know the one who's helping you train.

Look for someone who's social or brings lunch in - ask them to go out to lunch. then ask real questions about work and what their story is. Tell a little about yourself too.

Answer 6

I totally understand. I would just introduce myself and smile when meeting everyone. Maybe pick one person that you think you can connect with. And try to befriend them. Just remember your new co-workers are human too. They may be going through problems you have had. Try not to be too eager but also don't be too shy that people think your a snob.

Answer 7

Well it's good that your shy because usually in the workplace people who are overly friendy tend to annoy others.

Just talk to people at your own pace. Say "Hi" randomly to others who you see often and then they'll start to warm up to you.

Answer 8

don't try to make friends at work.
it didn't work for me.
i've done better since i've accepted that work is not a place i can have friends. just do your job and keep the relationships strictly professional.

Answer 9

Just look people in the eye and smile and say Hi you don't even have to stop and talk, just acknowledge people and they will not think you are rude

Answer 10

its really up to you. you shouldnt have to change yourself so that other people like you. If you are shy, then be shy. Your true friend will see throught ur shell and like you for who you are. :)