I've noticed a pattern of my boyfriend's behaviour, which I would like to understand. We're in a long-distance relationship right now but our plan is to move closer to each other.Every time, he's feeling upset about something like his job or if he's feeling down or unhappy, he's telling me how much he needs to make love to me? He starts to tell me that he needs me and how upset he's that he cannot make love to me at that time. Since he has lost his promotion 3 weeks ago, he has been pretty low and most of his messages are about how much he wants me and how it is upsetting that I am so far and that he needs to make love to me?
Whenever we are together, we both enjoy making love a lot! Normally he does not express this kind of frutstruation but lately he has been tellking me how upset he is with the distance. I am starting to worry if it means that he wants to have sex with someone nearby or if it simply means he misses me! I dont want to make him feel rejected by a wrong reaction?
2007-01-29 06:21:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he misses me so much and he wants to be with me, why has he listed all the drawbacks of being with me and having a long-distance relationship? He said he hardly ever sees me, it's always hard to organise a meeting and I don't speak his language. we speak English together. That's why I worry so much that he is trying to tell me that he does not want to be with me anymore?
2007-01-29 06:35:04 · update #1
Jus tell him you want him too, and it's ok because you'll be together soon.
2007-01-29 06:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by * 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm, interesting. If I were you, I'd ask, ask , ask. Communication solves a lot more than ya think. With the way things are going for him, he might just be venting the only way knows how. Another thing is to ask him where you both still stand and tell him why you're asking, that way he won't get offended or be hurt =) Just kind of see what and how he says things, that can help determine a lot of things. Good luck!
2007-01-29 06:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think its the sex, I think he is just at an very low point right now and needs YOU. Its not only sex but its also the closeness and having someone beside you in time of stress.
Sex is a very close bond and I dont think having with someone else is going to make him feel better. I think he actually needs your physical presence.
2007-01-29 06:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Making love is very intimate and it sounds as though this man is desperate to be close to you and connect.It may just be me being an old romantic but theres nothing better than making love to someone you love ,especially when you are down.I dont believe this man is doing anything wrong apart from missing you !
2007-01-29 06:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He just misses you very very very much. Not being able to be with you is killing him.
He loves you and wants to be near you now more than ever.
Having sex with you would make him feel better since he lost his promotion.
I really don't think he is entertaining the idea of being with anyone else.
2007-01-29 06:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men need to have sex to feel loved and reassured. His is doubting himself by losing that promotion and needs to know you are there for him.
He complains about the distance because he doesn't want to lose you.
Good luck.
2007-01-29 06:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is like this because you allowed him to have sex with you before he married you. He did not respect you enough to make you his wife before he had sex with you. Sounds to me like all he cares about is sex. I don't know if he misses you or if he misses sex. If he just misses sex, then yes he will find someone else.
That is what happens when you get the cart before the horse, it will never work out right.
2007-01-29 06:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
In stead of dealing with problems he wants t have pleasure, Yes there is a problem and needs to be dealt with because he is using you to feel good about himself, and soon he will be blaming you for his failures because you are not there to give him what he believe he needs and that is sex, and it wouldn't surprise me if he doesn't start looking closer to where he is
2007-01-29 06:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whoever is dissing the rest of the replies - stop it - they're all right in some way or other!
2007-01-29 07:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by Modern Major General 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is desperate to see you and when you make love it makes him feel very secure and loved - don't read anything into it, he just wants your love and support
2007-01-29 06:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋