Why divorce?

Question

Why do people feel divorce is the answer? because there is no communication? Why get married in the first place?
Did someone cheat? did he not forgive you? should you not forgive him/her? Divorce is to easy these days why not for once make a change in our world and lets get out of the Minority range as married people are rare these days.

Abuse...is another topic..this is the basic divorce I suppose I should have mentioned that, I am i a loving great relationship been in the abuse ( marriage before) To many are divorcing over silly things. I am just wondering why people feel divorce is the way out MINUS abuse relationships

Answer 1

Because they look for the easy way out. If they are divorcing over silly reasons can't agree on anything blah blah work it out. I don't believe in divorce unless the person is cheating on them and or there is abuse involved. If there's no abuse or cheating then there shouldn't be a problem then. Alot of people feel pressured to get married because if they are pregnant they don't want a baby born out of wedlock. Wouldn't a person rather wait to get married even if they get pregnant or if a person's not ready for marriage then why have unprotected sex to get yourself in that situation to get married.

Answer 2

I'm wondering a couple of things actually. I'm not trying to be an ****** about it, I'm just trying to better understand your view. I don't mean to offend, so forgive me if I do...

Have you ever been in one of those positions? I mean have you had a husband who cheated on you or came home drunk every night or was physically abusive to you or your children? Can you honestly say that you'd forgive and work things out with a spouse that came home with a disease from unprotected sex or drug use and passed it on to you? Or even worse, one that sexually abuses one of your children?

I'm sorry, but there are legitimate claims to divorce. To dispute that in my opinion is silly. If you can answer yes to all the above questions, then you're a strong strong person. Stronger than I would ever wish to be.

I do however believe in Marriage. It is an institution and a sacred pact between two people who love one another and I believe it is entered into with out the proper mindset all too often.

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Give an example of something you're referring to. In my marriage (and we are seeking counseling for this) I just don't love her anymore. Long story, look at my questions for details, but the point being we're trying really hard to make things work. But...(and I hate using the following words...) What If...I can't come to love her again? Is that not a reason for divorce? Am I to remain unhappy and loveless (except for my children) for the rest of my natural life just because I spoke words in front of witnesses?

Answer 3

Oh please, if you have neveed "been there" then why generalizing.

Do you think is easy to walk away to a judge and tell about your bussiness and rip a family apart?

Divorce IS the answer when there is abuse and there is no faithfulness. Why staying when you are getting beat on a daily basis?

Generalization are of ignorants. If you are lucky to be married with aperson that respecst you and never hit you or cheated on you then you have no bussiness pointing fingers at other peoples failure or pain.

Grow up

Answer 4

You can try to forgive, try to communicate, but many times the cheater is the one who files for divorce and the laws give you no way of making someone stay in a marriage.

Frankly, I wouldn't want my ex-wife to be forced to stay with me if she didn't love me.

I would like to see the laws changed so that infidelity is more costly to the cheater, such as losing all assets and primary custody of the children.

But, I would not want to force folks to stay married.

Even God recognized the hardness of peoples hearts and permitted divorce. The Bible says divorce was not God's intent. However, I do believe God understands that sometimes a spouse wants out, and there is nothing you can do to keep them in the marriage.

(You can read where the Pharasees asked Jesus about divorce and he said it was not God's will, but God allowed Moses to put it in the law because of the hardness of men's hearts.)

The most loving thing to do is to allow them to go and face their consequences without you being around.

Answer 5

Instead of having 2 boring actors, fainting, fighting, arguing, slapping, and so on ... parents, the divorce is the solution.

Marriage should be on contract with 10 years for free trial - if you resist so much then make it true, if don't ... buy something else.