She thinks I should still help out even though I told her I don't want to have any kids in my life yet. What do I do?
2007-01-29 06:12:22 · 20 answers · asked by Jennifer S 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Did she get herself pregnant or did you have something to do with it?
Moron...take care of your responsibilities!
2007-01-29 06:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy of 2 Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you knew you didn't want children, why were you having unprotected sex with your wife? Is it that she was on birth control pills and you trusted her to respect your wishes? If she purposely stopped using protection (without telling you), that's terrible; but you are still responsible for the welfare of the child.
If you truly don't want to be involved with raising a child, divorce your wife and make arrangements to pay child support. Otherwise, you'll have to help out, as she says. Your wife sounds like a very controlling woman and it's not likely that you're going to be happy in this marriage.
2007-01-29 14:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, everyone who answered this question...you see how a GIRL posted it? I think that means they are in a lesbian relationship, and it is NOT the poster's baby. If you love your wife and want to stay with her, I imagine you have to help. If she's already pregnant I guess that means that having kids is so important to her that she's willing to take the risk of causing a rift. You should evaluate what led up to the situation and bring it all to a psychologist.
2007-01-29 14:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So um... what's your wife's email address so that all of us can let your wife know what a louse you are. You married her, you want to have sex with her, but you aren't willing to take care of a child that has resulted from it? Maybe you weren't ready to get married yet? But all of that is beside the point. You helped create the baby (whether or not you want a child at this point is moot), you help take care of it. It's not like she went out and bought a puppy.... and what do you mean "my wife decided"? YOU decided to take that risk EVERY time you decided to sleep with her. GROW UP!
2007-01-29 14:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see. In your first questions you say your husband is using yahoo answers to make decisions and now your saying your wife got pregnant and you didnt want kids. Are you a man or a woman? Either way your full of **** and just doing this to get attention.
2007-01-29 14:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by lorisbarbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have agreed with your wife when she became pregnant by your having sex with her for the purpose of her becoming pregnant.
You are obligated for the next 18 or so years to help raising this child.
If you persist at refusing to want to help with the child, then she sould sue for divorcement and have you pay a very high child support.
You, sir, are a very poor excuse of a man. you need to be drawn and quartered by my estimation, you are a scum bag! And I haven't said that before on here.
2007-01-29 14:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have thought about that before you had sex. that baby didnt ask to be brought in to this world. quit being such a selfish jerk. kids are wonderful, and its not like you have to do all the breastfeeding and stuff. its not going to kill you to be a good father to your child. love him disipline him when older, give him baths change a few diapers when its nice out take him for a walk, read to him, get him dressed in the morning. take him fishing when hes old enough. be the father to your child that you never had. bonding with your child begins from day one. help take care of your child and love your child. you loved your wife enough to get her pregnant now you will love her and your child.
2007-01-29 14:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyessly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm am i assuming that she already HAS had the baby?? are you sure she 'decided' to?? sometimes it just happens even when you are trying to prevent it....i can speak from experience!! in MY opinion, please take it for what it's worth, it is important that the child have both a supportive mother and father if possible! you may resent it later when you want to have a bond with your child and they want nothing to do with you. children can be such a blessing even though they are unplanned. just try to look ahead to what your attentive or inattentive role in the relationship with your child will be like and if that is what you want before you fully make a desision to how you will handle it
2007-01-29 14:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by StinaMommie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, you effing help your wife raise YOUR baby!!!!!
The fact that you even thought this, let alone POSTED it makes me pitty you even more....what a selfish jerk.
I will pray for you, and the family you'd like to "get out of helping"
PS. she didnt just "decide" to get pregnant. Perhaps some sex ed tapes might be beneficial for you. Geez!
2007-01-29 14:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by MommyTwice-TwiceTheLove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to have children become a priest or just don't stick your penis inside or ejaculate anywhere near her vagina and maybe then maybe just then she won't get pregant or you could just tell her to wait a while
2007-01-29 15:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by Gene B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋