And "Please get your things and go." I own the house, and pay all the bills, do all of the housework. I don't understand what my problem is. The sex isn't that great, and I can get that anywhere. Why am I doing this to myself? We do not have children together. I have two kids who are moderatly attached, but he really isn't that close to them. Has anyone else out there continued to do and do and do for someone not getting anything in return and at the same time wish they would just leave? We have only been married for 1 yr 7 mos, but I think he has continued to not be a partner for so long that I don't want him to do things right now. I just want to chalk it up to bad choices and move on. We went to counseling last year and it didn't change anything.
2007-01-29 05:58:35 · 7 answers · asked by browneyedgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I like to be alone though. The part about fearing failure, now that sounds more like me. I am very competitive and always think I can fix everything for everyone.
2007-01-29 06:05:55 · update #1
Sounds like you're afraid of failing even though you're the one who's made the larges effort.
That of it's a fear of being alone.
2007-01-29 06:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like my situation in reverse. I so regret everything I didn't do for my wife in the past now! I have finally opened my eyes to the fact that yea, she's been right and I haven't been listening to anything she said before. Now I fear that it's too late, she has recently asked me to move out. I still love her very strongly and it hurt so bad to hear her tell me she doesn't love me the way I am. I've been having mood swings like you wouldn't believe! I'm angry with myself, very depressed because I feel like such a failure and hurt for letting her down like I have. I know this isn't really an answer for your question but maybe you'll get a feeling for some of what he may go through. Of course he may handle it totally different than I am. Good luck, I wish you the best no matter what happens!
2007-01-29 06:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by daremn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may fear rejection and you are afraid of what or how he will accept this because he doesn't take rejection well either Maybe he's violent and this may push him over the edge. I say let him go and don't let it drag out. You'll both be glad when it's over .He might be waiting for you to give him the boot. Also have a safety plan in place in the event that he wants to trip.
2007-01-29 06:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by Chocolate1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead fixing everything for everyone else, fix your on problem, Kick his sorry no good a** out the door. Why would want to keep a man that has no job or any ambition. You kick that sorry Bast*** out the door before you wind up pregnant, why would you if have all these things put up with a sorry excuse for a man, kick him out to the garbage men.
2007-01-29 06:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer
2007-01-29 06:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sicily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play "The Way We Were". Sure help him out,too.
2007-01-29 06:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by javo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please ,the sex isn't good ,he's a boring man, he doesn't have no money and he doesn't care about you so please be for real kick him OUUUUUUUUUUT...........
2007-01-29 06:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by BOOKEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋