Is the best way to overcome your fears and phobia's to slap yourself in face and say "GET OVER IT"?

Question

I have a fear of embarrassing myself in public. I don't have a fear of public places but I have a fear of either gettign sick to stomach or not making it to bathroom in time for the other thing. This is a stupid fear and I hate that it bothers me. I am trying to convince myself that stuff like this doesn't just happen to me. People get sick or something all the time out in public. I feel sometimes taht I'm almost suppose to be perfect. I'm very sociable but this fear bothers me. I know everyone has certian preferences. I do not like big crowds nor goign out in public much. I'm a homebody, and I'm happy with that. But when I do go out this is my fear. I have a minor case of IBS which I feel contributes to this fear. I have come to realization however I need to conquer this fear so I have basically told myself to get over it and that one I do not need to care what others think of me and that people will not judge me if I get sick or have to rush to bathroom.Is this how to conquer

Answer 1

No. That's way too inhumane. Just go gradually. What is the most important thing is Self-Talk How you talk to yourself!
Remember: How you think controls your entire world and you have a choice. So be positive and counteract those negative thoughts. It takes time but you must Be postive OVer and OVER AND OVER (infinitie)
Tell yourself....Everything is going to be OKAY Over and Over and Over...then you will hear yourself saying WOW! Everything IS okay!
Take care!

Answer 2

actually yes, thats exactly right. the last part there ¨i told myself to get over it and that one i do not need to care what others think of me and that people will not judge me if i get sick or have to rush to the bathroom¨. this part. this is excellent. if you can actually believe that, you are giving yoursel unconditional positive regard. that means no matter waht happens, youre happy with yourself. exactly right!