Help me please! I am in love with someone, and our love is responsible love leading to marriage...He has been so fond of me, he always talks but about 5 weeks ago he became silent...I thought something is wrong, or that he wanted suddenly to break our relationship...even if there is no reason I had this in mind...I tried to call him, but I couldn't...then I caught him and he just said he is busy...it was a week ago...I can't imagine that he is slipping away for no reason, and I know that he ios the type of person who gonna tell me if he will. What do you think is this?? What does it mean if a man is silent. We are adults, not teenagers. Thanks
2007-01-29 05:48:40 · 15 answers · asked by LaRoseJaune 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hmm. Responsible love leading to marriage, yet silence for 5 weeks? "Just busy?" Something does not add up. What the silence means is there is something that NEEDS saying that he does not want to say.
2007-01-29 05:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Responsible love leading to marriage? How would this be so if he has gone silent. If this was so he would speak to you regardless of whatever problem he is having. Do you think this bodes well for when you are married? Even if he is busy this is a problem and not how you act when you are in love.
Stop calling him. If he contacts you, steps up to the plate and has a rational explanation well you can go from there. If he doesn't you also have an answer. Either way he needs to talk to you and you need to make HIM make the effort. I suspect that he doesn't care for you as much as you think by not making a simple call. Men don't act that way if they love somebody.
2007-01-29 05:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is experiencing a depression, it is not his fault that it has happenned. There is no reason for someone to become depressed, it just happens. I guess the only thing you can do is count the days as they go by...that is how I deal with this type of problem, mark the days off on the calendar when I get up, and just try to feel like I am alive, one day at a time. Whatever is going on, who knows ,Right? It is not your fault, and you are a great person who deserves to be happy.
2007-01-29 05:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont say how long you have been in the relationship however, if it has been a long time and this has happened, something is wrong. If it is a short time then, that's what men do, they pull away for a while. Leave him be, don't call him at all. If he doesnt call you for another two weeks, move on!
2007-01-29 05:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by luckybean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 week is not enough time to think he doesn't love you, he may be busy, he may have something going on in his life that doesn't pertain to you. I'm that that type of person I may have some problems at work or whatever, I stay to myself to try not to bring my problems to someone else. Be patient wait until he calls or you see him again and then if he doesn't acknowledge your relationship than there isn't anything you do, it's time to move on.
2007-01-29 05:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be hiding something or have something on his mind, like committment. I got let go just like that once. He just stopped calling me. I don't know what happened either! Committment scares men because this means they have to stop being selfish and grow up. Some don't want to do that! If he ever does call you, don't ask questions, act like nothing is bothering you! Let him bring it up. He needs to apologize!
2007-01-29 05:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by jacksonblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he has a lot of stress going on outside the relationship and he is just concentrating on that. I suggest you ask him out to dinner and just talk to him about it, let him know how you feel. If he really cares about you, he will tell you what is going on and things will hopefully work out for you.
2007-01-29 05:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys sometimes step back when they realize that they are getting very close to someone. It's usually recommended that you allow that, and relax. Try to love him unconditionally, and allow his back-and-forth time.
If you think it's been more time than that, you should ask for a heart-to-heart talk, and tell him exactly what you mentioned here. It's not good to worry about things and not talk to him.
2007-01-29 05:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes men just need there space its not always the woman. That also doesn't mean that he still doesn't love you anymore he still cares just let him stay to himself a little and get it together by his self it might take time but he will tell you.
2007-01-29 06:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say something heavy is on his mind. Could be work related, or health. Men do not like to talk about their problems to females unless it's their mother. For now I'd say just be there for him when he is ready to talk to you, don't jump to conclusions, as you said you know him well enough that he would say if it was another in his life.
2007-01-29 05:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋