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Question

My husband is not satisfiying me in bed. I talk to him about it but he says he'll change a little but he doesnt. Its basically like ME ME ME. Kiss ME caress ME. Im tired of talking about it telling him. I dont think he takes me seriously. i just want a little attention other then me doing it all to him! What do i do?

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Answer 1

Don't do anything. Stop making love to him all together and then when he says he doesnt like the lack of attention tell him "... perhaps now you know how I feel ..."

Answer 2

Sometimes men are over-sized boys, who needs to be told everything!!!! Try this method, and if it doesn't work, get a vibrator. First of, I know that you're tired giving all the attention, but just this last time, blow his mind to the point where he wants and have to have you. Plan the evening in advance, if you work, ask for half-day off, if there are children, either drop them off by Nana, Aunty Sue or Aunt Betty, either way, get rid off them for the night. Sprulge on a SEXY ensomble, one that you know will get his juices flowing. Before going home, pick up a XXXXXX-rated movie, be sure that your bedroom is cleaned and sets the tone for hot "raunchy" sex. Make sure that you're stunningly breath-taking, and smell heavenly divine. Whatever his favorite meal is, make sure that it's cooked to perfection. When he comes home, the mood should in set in the room with some love-making music, make sure that your seated in his lap as you feed him. As you're feeding him, be sure the rub your hands over the important parts. After dinner, draw his bath, as he bathes, you change into your new hot ensomble, have the DVD playing - mute the sound, and just lay in the bed, which by the way should be filled with rose petals. When he enters, the thought of you continuing to please him has already aroused him, so he's ready for you to bring it home. Here is where you have to be strong willed. Do all and more that's being shown on the DVD, stuck and lick him from head to toe. Leave no part untouched. I mean give him a blowie like never before, and just when he thinks that you're going to pleasure him, just kiss him on the forehead and say "Good night, honey". By that time, his manhood will be ready to explode, so the only way he gets some release is for him to do you all night the way you want to do done. Kissing, caressing, eating, sucking, fingering and the whole nine yards. Make sure that he pleasures you in every way before sexual intercourse takes place. Like I said, be strongwilled, and stick to your guns, if he doesn't do as you wish, turn your back and go to sleep. But be sure to buy a vibrator the very next day, because I'm sure you'll be all hot and bothered for some relief as well.

Answer 3

it is unfortunate that he is not paying attention to your DEMANDS despite u being vocal. u can only keep trying do not involve into active sex unless u have adequate foreplay and this is the time he will definitely caress u coz that time it is the only thing to do, foreplay can be while watching a hot channel on tv or porno or x rated movie and whatever he does little which u feel pleased over react to that pleasure which will induce interest in him and he will attempt to do that again and again and this way slowly and steady u can achieve your goal.every time encourage him to continue and do that again . there is also possibility that physically he is with u and heart o heart he may be some where else. but your foreplay tactics should work as it will make him hugry and wanting of having sex which u should tactfull keep delaying.

Answer 4

Question- are you faking the big "O"? If you are then stop. I know one thing my husband doesn't like is when I just act bored or just lie there completely passive. Men like it better when they know they're driving you wild. It boosts their esteem and their masculine identity. Acting like you're not interested is a real turn-off. It will get him to slow down and start trying to figure out what he can do to change things.

Having said that, I don't agree with everyone who said you should withhold sex altogether. That's just going to create more bad vibes between you two and he may just grow to resent it. In bed, try physically moving his hands where you want them. When he does do something that really hits the spot, make sure he knows! This is basic psychology here- reward desirable behaviors and don't reward the undesirable ones.

Answer 5

It depends on how specific you are and when you talk to him. First, never discuss these things while having sex. Don't just tell him WHAT you want, but why you want it. Second, ask him why he hasn't been willing to pay a little more attention to you. Get in his head. It gets to the point that if someone is unwilling to please their partner or unwilling to discuss openly any issues that arise during marriage, maybe a third party is required, such as a family therapist. But, before that, when talking, try not to be angry and accusatory. He will only clam up or get angry,

Answer 6

oh my goodness,my man is the same way and guess what?I have stopped having sex with him altogether and guess what he still hasn't got it.By the time he does get it I won't be attracted to him anymore.In fact it's been months and that hasn't changed.Now I fear that anything he tries will feel phony so I'm not sure if we will ever be together again sexually.I think passion is something some people have and others know nothing about and if it ain't in him,it ain't in him.Too bad for him for sooner or later we will have to move on and sorry for him,he'll never find another like me and maybe that's good too.

Answer 7

I'm sorry, personally I enjoy satisfying my wife in bed, because to me, it's more of a turn on for me than her pleasuring me. Because it turns me on, knowing that she's enjoying what I'm doing to give her pleasure, is a huge turn on for me.

Sounds like he's only thinking of himself, and that's not good. I know, I had gotten guilty of the same thing where I only thought of myself, and I was neglecting my wife.

Your husband needs to get his priorites in order and start putting you and your feelings and needs before his own, because if he doesn't I think he could be in for quite a rude awakening and that being a divorce. I agree with what the others are saying and suggest that you both go through marriage counceling. It can really help alot. It really helped my wife and I.

Hope that this helps.

Answer 8

If talking did get him to change anything, then the key here you need to make him feel you don’t enjoy your time in bed with him, so whenever he wants to do it, just act like you are not in the mood, he has to feel that he is not doing it for you anymore. This will bother him at first but later he will realize and ask why you feel this why, he should change afterwards. Hope this helps.

Answer 9

The first answer is a great suggestion. My wife never seem to be interested in sex, if I start caressing her, she gets motivated. Then as I continue to her completion, she becomes a dead sack of bones. Your husband is fortunate to have a wife that puts energy into physically bringing about a sexual union.

Too bad your husband has developed tha habit of not trying to satisfy his partner. He needs a taste of his own actions.

Answer 10

I would suggest a marriage councilor but he may not go for that. In that case I would maybe withdraw from him and see what it's like to be neglected. At some point he may be willing to see it your way or see a therapist. Good luck. Out of curiosity, was he shown much affection growing up? Usually if men were treated like a mans man all their life, they don't often know how to be affectionate. Therapy would help that.

Answer 11

Welcome to marriage and one of the most argued about subjects in marriage.

Sex is soooo important and most people fail to realize that it is probably in the top two for most conflicted areas.

You need to let him know that you are not satisfied and that you will be cutting back on his attention if he does not make a concentrated effort to increase the amount of attention that you receive.

But remember that you married him for more than sex. So try not to allow this to destroy your marriage. If he is failing in the plaeasure area, masterbate. If he is failing in the cuddling, then make him make up for that affection before any clothes come off. cuddling in front of the TV is a great place for caressing and kissing.