Would YOU rather be home with baby and poor or use day care and have money.?

Question

I made my chioce years ago but a person close to me is choosing daycare and money. I choose poor and at home for the first couple of years I WILL NEVER REGRET IT. WE just want to see what most people think.

THIS IS A QUESTION THAT IMPLIES THAT YOU HAVE A CHOICE WHAT WOULD YOU DO

This is the best group of answers I can not believe how much information you gave me to 'win' i the debate (just kidding).
You gave us alot of info. that we had not considered. ...the taxes...the behavior...all valid. THANKS how could I ever choose? Even the silly wise crack rang true:)

sorry I think the word is rung??

Answer 1

It's a personal and family choice whether to use daycare to enable parents to continue to work.

Personally though, I believe what this study says and decided that I would rather be home taking care of my children than putting them in daycares

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Children who spent an average of 30 or more hours per week in day care before they were 4.5 years old had more behavioral problems than peers who were in daycare for less than an average of 10 hours a week (a 3.7 point difference in behavior score). Children who scored in the bottom third in terms of the quality of the parental care they received exhibited more behavioral problems than those whose parental care was rated in the top third (a 2.4 point difference). The impact of the quantity of day care was 50 percent higher than that of parenting quality and nearly the same as the effect of poverty.
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Source
"Early child care and children’s development prior to school entry: Results from the NICHD study of early child care."
NICHD Early Child Care Research Network (2002)
American Educational Research Journal Vol. 39, Number 1. , 2002. Page(s) 133-164.

Answer 2

If you could afford it- stay home. The bond you'll develop with your children is magical. Day care is really expensive - so if working will not produce at least double the cost of day care -stay home.

Another consideration is taxes. What you take home is far less then the invaluable memories you'll have or your angels. Besides, staying home will lower your tax bracket.

As you get older, the most "valuable" asset, you'll discover -is time. Time you will never get back, so enjoy your children while you have them- before you know it they will leave you and you would trade in anything in this world for more time with them.

Good choice.
God bless...

Answer 3

There really is a lot to consider with this specific question, more details need to be given. What is the cost of living where you live? How did you provide for your child if you stayed at home being in this state? Did you have family support? Do you have a significant other to help support you? When you say "poor," how poor where you? Did you have enough money to provide for the sufficient needs/care of the child?

You have to look at all the factors to why you choose this compared to someone else.

I live in one of the most expensive cities in the US, so the cost of living is quite high. In order for me to provide for a child and be able to live here I will have to put the child in daycare and work. I would not have support from family or a significant other. I do not care to be on welfare. So in order for me to provide the basic needs for a child (food, shelter, clothing) I would work.

Most likely I will have to drop out of college to provide for a child, so I will have to repay my student loans. They expect me to repay upon graduatioin or upon dropping out of school or it will go into default and my credit report will be ruined so bad.

On my time off I will try very hard to spend time with my child and bond with him/her.

If I stayed home with a child and was "poor," then I would have no apartment for the child, the child would not be eating, the child would not have clothes, I would have my student loans go into default, my bills would go upaid (so no electric, no heat, no gas, no hot water). Most likely the child would be in a foster home.

So once again I prefer to work to provide the basic needs and care for my child and place him/her in daycare while I'm out doing that.

if you disagree with your friend then you need to disucss why they deicide to go this route instead of what you choose. Insead of assuming that it's easy to choose between living @ home "poor" or daycare and money.

Answer 4

nicely it relies upon on the situation. that's extra advantageous for the newborn?sitting abode with them and being undesirable? does husband artwork so which you will stay abode. are you residing on welfare and not attempting to make something extra advantageous. its no longer easy to declare. I stayed abode the 1st 300 and sixty 5 days together as my husband worked yet as quickly as we could no longer make it on his earnings on my own then i found artwork. before everything I took on a 2d shift activity so he stayed abode with the babies so we did no longer have the price of daycare. Daycare is physically powerful to youngsters get to be around others and have interaction, so as that they study its ok for the father and mom to depart, they are going to be back. its all approximately possibilities and existence circumstances. in case you'll be able to make ends make and cant pay the expenses then its in all risk extra advantageous for the newborn in case you artwork and function money. money isn't each little thing yet each little thing fee money. some people are made to have the potential to stay abode and are wonderful with that, others they choose for that factor removed from the abode they could be working yet its a smash from all of it.

Answer 5

I chose poor and at home, i loved being there for my kids growing up, I only started working full time this year, they are now 12 & 8

Answer 6

I guess I would have to weigh my wage against the cost of daycare. Plus, the wild card is how much you will treasure the time you used to raise your kids.

Answer 7

You wont be rich with day care-prices are outrageous!! You can spend time with your children and have them in day care. It also helps them meet other children and get a head start for school. It also gives mom "me time"

Answer 8

I would much rather stay home with my children. sometimes it's not always possible, but if I were able to choose, it would be to be a SAHM!

Answer 9

yes, I think any woman or man out there would gladly subject their children to day care just so they could have that nice house, new shoes, or a "pimped out" ride.......