My husband is inconsitant on just about everything. He would go to work get his paycheck and would give me half of it. Then he would make excuses as of why he doesn't have enought money in the middle of the week. He would sleep for long hours, not take a shower and would eat candy and drink lots of soda. He complains that he is sick and yet he wont go to the doctors. Are these signs of him doing drugs? Should I leave him? Should I tell his dad to take care of him? I am stuck and undecided on what to do. HELP!
2007-01-29 05:21:12 · 7 answers · asked by Deyla C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Usually when someone you love is doing drugs, you don't just give up. I'm not sure how long this has been going on, but I had to use tough love on my son to make it work, then thats still no guarantee that they will stay off drugs, you can only give them so much and love them so much, they have to want to quit. Sounds like your husband is doing meth, those are some of the symptoms. Is it hard for him to relax, is he always going? When my son gave up meth, and went through withdrawals, that is when the sleep thing happened, sick, fever, night sweats, no food, then when he was hungry he'd eat sugary snacks. Some of the symptoms your husband has are signs of withdrawals, maybe he is trying to quit on his own. Give him love and support and lots of hope that he can quit.
2007-01-29 05:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These could be signs of drugs but probably not Meth... Im telling you this because I have used all these drugs in the past. Meth will make a person very hyper and very irritable. People on meth usually will have very bad teeth after only a lil while of using it. The signs you are talking about sound more like maybe Heroin. Heroin makes people most of the time nod out and fall asleep. The candy and pop will be used for the most part to wake up or get energy. Also heavy drinkers sometimes eat a lot of candy and pop because alcohol contains sugar so when they stop drinking they crave the sugar. Talk to him and ask him ... Tell him you love him and just want it to stop no matter what it takes. Do not spy on him do not restrict him from money or going places this would be considered being co-dependent. Live your life as you would normaly and let him know you want him to be part of it but you want him to be clean.
2007-01-29 13:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by darin s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on if you have kids involved or not, and weather or not there is a lot of love and respect still in your relationship, is what would make me deciede on what to do. If the man has a drug problem , which sounds possible, and if your already having concerns that drugs are involved then your probably correct, you should know him best, since your married to him. He needs re-hab a good one if he is on drugs, because he could end up in worse circumstances down the road. If he won't quit,or if he says he doesn't have a drug problem and you strongly believe he does, you should get out, before you waste the next umpteen years to a addictive personality.
2007-01-29 14:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's doing drugs it's not meth! It keeps you up for days, you don't eat, and you stay busy all the time. I would say it sounds more like pot. Does he have a funny smell on his clothes or does it smell like he just put on cologne when he gets home? (to cover up the smell of the pot on his clothes)
Of course it could be something besides drugs. Those symptoms also sound like he MIGHT be going through a bout of depression. You definately need to investigate this further; and don't give up on him~ help him!
2007-01-29 14:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by JeffHardy4Eva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound like meth too me, but it does sound like some type of drug.
Meth would make him stay up for says usally and not eat much at all (its not uncommon for meth users to not eat for 30 hours striaght or stay up for a couple days)
The main thing in your story that says he is using drugs is the fact that he doesnt have money.
2007-01-29 16:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Im not stupid i just dont care 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, something is going on....usualy with meth they lose weight and dont eat or sleep since it is a stimulant, but maybe he is doing some other kind of drug....who knows. Obviously you arent comfortable with the situation and your gut instinct tells you something is wrong, so there probably is.
try to help him, but if he doesnt want it, then there is nothing you can do...so leave.
Dont put yourself in a dangerous situation....its not worth it
2007-01-29 13:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by zaeli22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
losing of a lot of weight but honey you need to think of what you are going to lose if he ever get caught i would try to take to his dad maybe you guys could either put him in treatment or both of you do a tough love thing and tell him he needs to straighten out or he does not have either of you talk to someone do not try to do anything on your own because if he is doing drugs he could turn on yo and that could be very dangerous for you
2007-01-29 14:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by mary m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋