I live in Florida, I am waiter who makes $3/hr plus tips and she makes $9.50/hr, We are going to split verything 50-50
does this means that she have to support me?
Do I have to pay child support?
2007-01-29 05:21:11 · 18 answers · asked by Ray C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most states are no fault states so whether you cheated or not shouldn't matter. However, you shouldn't want her to pay alimony but that's just common decency since you did the cheating.
Child support is a completely separate issue. But yes, you will have to pay child support if she has sole custody. If you have joint custody, then perhaps another arrangement can be made. You need a lawyer.
2007-01-29 05:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by A B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alimony is a thing of the past form when women were stay at home mothers and needed the support of their husbands to survive. Its really not even going to be an issue in your divorce if that is what you plan to do. Neither one of you make enough money to worry about it. You will both be lucky to make enough to support your child.
The person who pays the child support is the non custodial parent of the child (the parent who does not live with the child)
If your ex wife or partner ends up with the child, you will have to pay her 20% of your net income for support or 20 cents on every dollar you bring home. This amount of money is set up thru the courts and records are kept on the amount you have paid and the amount you owe. It never goes away. It doesnt matter if you get laid off the day after the judgement for child support is made by a judge. No excuses. Pay up or face penalties.
Good luck. Remember, the most important thing is to be a responsible parent and do the best you can do with your child.
Dont be ignorant and put her/him in the middle of a failed marriage/relationship. Dont make him/her choose sides and degrade the other parent. It would be a mistake.
2007-01-29 05:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will have to pay child support. It depends on the state you live in how much you will pay.
I don't buy your statement that she makes more than you do. You probably make more in tips than she does twice over. I know how that works. If she has records on how much you actually bring home SHE may get alimony (its not just for non working spouses) but to compensate for loss of a spouses earnings.
If she is supporting a child (or children) on $9.50 an hour she needs as much of her income as possible. Spliting everything 50-50 means assets and debts. You should be grateful she is being so considerate.
2007-01-29 05:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by professorc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...What's wrong with you? Do you know what sex you are? You're "suppose" to be a man. Act like one.
Re-read your statement. "YOU" cheated on your spouse... Dag nab it!!! You need to get yourself together and don't look for ANY type of hand out from her. You're in essense trying to take what little money she earns ($9.50/hr) and put it in your hands... You must be trippin! Not to mention there's a child involved.
Work two or three jobs if you have to and don't ask such a stupid... numb nut... down right ridiculous questions like "Do I have to pay child support"
Learn how to be a responsible, dedicated father and get some therapy so you can find out why you felt the need to ruin your home life by cheating on your spouse and now after the cheating... you want to turn around and think it's ok to ask for some sort of financial support from her..
What the heck is prompting you to ask such questions? Go back to school or get some additonal training from somewhere so you can qualify for a better paying job. Then you'll be able to provide better for your child as well as yourself.... because right now you sound broke down... and not like a True man especially since you're questioning having to question supporting your own flesh and blood. You're also trying to live off your wife's small salary.... that's just crazy!
What in the World!
Again...
WHAT's Wrong With YOU?????
2007-01-29 05:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by 247 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alimony and Child Support are two different things.
In most states, alimony is rare. (It's also now call spousal support).
It is typically only awarded in marriages of longer than 10 years when one spouse gave up a career for the other to be a SAHM, and dad makes a high 5 figure or above wage.
You guys are making peanuts, even with her making $9.50/hour, so I doubt alimony is even going to be on the table.
Child support will be awarded from the non-custodial parent to the custodial parent.
Personally, I think it add insult to injury for a cheater to ask the woman (or man as my ex-wife did) to pay spousal support for a faithful spouse they no longer want.
Have your affair partner support you now, and don't bother asking your soon to be ex-wife support you.
If you don't want her, why would you want her money.
If you wanted her, then why did you cheat? You may say you want her with your words, but your actions speak a far different story.
2007-01-29 05:41:31 · answer #5 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In theory the higher paid spouse could have to pay 'spousal support', but the one with custody is entitled to child support. Even though she makes more than you it's far from a great living, so the spousal support will probably not be awarded to anyone. You will have to pay child support even if it's just a small amout each month. If I were you I'd start looking for a second job.
2007-01-29 06:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support you is out of the question as the divorce probably
is because of your cheating, and whoever get custody of
the child the other has to pay child support, so for your
reward for cheating, you will now probably have to look
for two jobs as you won't get any monetary support from
her and you will probably end paying child support as it
should be since you helped bring the child into this world.
So good luck in your extra job hunting and don't forget
the child support.
2007-01-29 13:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she files for a divorce it will probably be on the grounds of adultery. No she will not have to support you, especially if there is a child who is in the household with her. Yes if she has custody of the child or children you will have to pay child support. The court will determine how much based on your potential earning as well as how much u currently make. Since you have already confessed, just be a man about it and focus on the welfare of the child. You have hurt her enough, asking her to support you and the child is just making matters worse. I would pay the child support and be happy thats all it is, instead of airing your dirty laundry in a courtroom, but thats just my opinion.
2007-01-29 05:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by ILoveMe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoever has custody of the child will not have to pay support the other parent will. However I don't know anything about alimony laws in Florida.
2007-01-29 05:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, you screwed up the relationship and now your trying to get money from her???....or you screwed up the relationship and you don't think you should have to pay 50/50? which is it??
Either way it's 50-50 YOU PAY HALF! Half of child support, half of everything. That means now you have to get a BETTER JOB! to help support the child you helped to bring into this world. But out of LOVE FOR YOUR CHILD you'd want to do that any ways...right?
2007-01-29 05:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋