I have received a text message from a close friend but it was clearly meant for someone else as it was something about me ! It's not a terrible thing, but it's certainly not true and a bit hurtful .
Would you let your friend know about it, or ignore it ? After all it wasn't meant for my eyes, it was a private thought that accidently ended up on my phone !
I'm just curious about what people would do if this happened to them ?
2007-01-29 05:03:07 · 22 answers · asked by Paris69 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks everyone, I did confront my friend, I made a bit of a joke out of it, she nearly died of embarrasment...but we sorted it out! Hopefully it won't happen again. I appreciate all your answers, it will be very hard to pick a best answer as they are all great !
2007-01-30 02:59:12 · update #1
Definitely go straight to this friend who was gossiping about you. Don't go to any of your other friends, because then you will also be guilty of gossipping. When you talk to this friend, tell her what happened and explain that your feelings were hurt. If she is aloof and doesn't feel sorry at all, reconsider your friendship. If she does apologize, forgive her; and make a mental note to be cautious about what you share with who.
2007-01-29 05:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by Friend 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on what the message was. If I felt betrayed yes I would tell my friend. One way or the other the issue will be addressed. Is better to address and be done with it. Instead of second guessing yourself and being uncomfortable. Is this a true friend? Is yours to ascertain and decide. Been there done this. I agree is not pleasant. I decided that she was not my friend after all. Hope your situation turns out for the best. Mine did. Good luck.
2007-01-29 05:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Had a similar thing happen to me, I found out something that a supposed 'friend' had said about me, (which was pretty nasty really!) I haven't said anything to her about it, and I won't either, but I know she is two-faced and says things about people, then is nice to their faces (I hate that!)
I don't really associate with her any more, will speak to her but I'd NEVER confide in her (she sh!t stirs too!) I keep myself to myself, I'm a grown woman with 3 kids, and a great hubby, and I grew out of all of that stuff when I was at school, if your mate (and my so called mate) wants to act like a silly little school girl , Let her! Please keep your distance, and find some decent mates!!
2007-01-29 05:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What if it was your boyfriend that did it? I dont know but I would tell her then leave her the heck alone. Girls can be triflin. Why didnt she come to you about it instead of gossiping? Is she that bad? I think it was meant for you eyes, to open them and see her for who she is and what I see her as being is far from a true friend.
2007-01-29 05:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by chaa107 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let them know that he or she sent me a message meant for someone else and that I think it was unfair that they are spreading false accusations or rumors about me. Weather the message was meant for my eyes or not it found them. Thoughts are no longer thoughts when you share them openly especialy when they are hurtful.
2007-01-29 05:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Joe A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the person that sent it , you got the message. You wanted to let them know it is not true and that you will send it to the rightful person, after you tell them it is a lie.
Thank the person for spreading rumors about you and tell them they are no friend of yours.
end of story.....
2007-01-29 05:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let them know. You wouldn't want that to happen again especially if was something hurtful or embarrasing. Think how you'd feel if the situation was reversed.
2007-01-29 05:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by happyblonde 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd speak to them and let them know you were hurt by what you read.It doesn't matter if it wasn't meant for you a true friend wouldn't be saying hurtful things about you!
2007-01-29 05:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Shortie545 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt be able to keep this to myself....if you clear the air now you will feel a lot better, leave it and it will gnaw away at you. Ask her why she did it and tell her you feel hurt, and do it sooner rather than later. She probably knows she sent it to you by mistake as it will be in her outbox, so mentioning it should sort this out
2007-01-29 05:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by tizzy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
question your friend, they must know they sent it to you by mistake and are probably feeling terrible. there doesnt need to be an arguement, simply tell her you recieved the message and found it a bit hurtful then ask what its all about. good luck!
2007-01-29 05:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by katyllou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋