I feel as though I dont love my boyfriend as much as I loved him when we first started going out (I hope it wasnt just infatuation......we have been together 5 months but it is very serious....the first 3 months were OUT OF THIS WORLD). My whole family LOVES him beyond belief and I dont know if I am just staying with him because of that. I know that I wouldn't want to break up with him but I just dont feel that strong LOVE bond anymore. I dont want to break up with him. He is so caring, genuine, affectionate, trustwrothy, humourous etc.....I just want those feelings back again. I dont want to doubt our relationship. I know ppl say follow your gut but I dont know what my gut is telling me. My feelings are telling me that I want to stay with him! But I want to know for sure.....Will I regain that love
2007-01-29 05:00:43 · 11 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You two sound like a great couple. Real love happens when the lust and infatuation wears off. You will never regain that initial high. Real love is built on trust, caring, affection; the things you currently share. Talk to eachother about the fun times you had when you first got together and all the fun things you plan to do in the future. Take a vacation together or just shake up your routine a little.
2007-01-29 05:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Bean62960 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tuf...hmmm....you seem to say that he's wonderful and that your parents like him (which is a big thumbs up on his part) The word love is interpreted in a various number of ways. Depending on your meaning of love, then my advice may not help. To me love is a mutual relationship, definately not a give and take. To add some spark into the relationship, try to think about the things that got you together and first in love. Like was it the way he talked, the way he smiled and all that goody-goody stuff. Stuff like, 'I don't feel that the love is there anymore,' is bound to happen eventually. So I think that you should put some love into it. Treat him, take him out, tease him, flatter him: 9 out of 10 he's going to respond back. Maybe this is how your spark comes back. Or you could just go up and talk to him about, though sometimes(depending on your boyfriend) it could come out the wrong way. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-01-29 05:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by sYnDiA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The love is not what you've lost,it's the excitement of a relationship,being new.If you chase that feeling it will be like being on drugs,always looking for that initial thrill.Relationships cool off,that's why two people have to have a real friendship and lots of things in common,because after the glow dims,what's beneath the surface?I can only tell you that if this is true it's good to know so you won't commit your self to long term relationships in the future because you like the thrill of the chase like my cat,but once you succeed,the thrill is gone.
2007-01-29 05:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 04:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First define your feelings of love. What has changed? It appears the newness has worn off after 3 mos. That may be considered normal. In what way were those 3 months out of this world? You need to look at your feelings very honestly. When one loves another, one doesnt fall out of love for no reason. Do NOT overlook something.......anything that may be troubling you. In time, it will only grow into a monster. I wish you the best in discovering who YOU are..........and who HE is, as well. That journey is well worth the price of a little time! :)
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2007-01-29 07:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by mundonuevo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good friend once told me that love is a choice. That's something that only you can decide -- it's not black and white like that.
2007-01-29 06:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeez dawg dont be with him 4 the sake of it he could be shagging another girl that actually wants him by now stop being greedy
2007-01-29 05:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by urmum7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah dawg itz over init just shag him 1 last time then ask his dad out then give me a bell u SWINE ;) grrrrowl
2007-01-29 05:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had that same thing with me just give it a little more time then.... you will maybe start felling how u used to fell about him long time ago
2007-01-29 05:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Larissa ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋