2007-01-29 04:56:55 · 12 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My Ex and I became best friends after we split up. The dynamics are very different between a relationship and a friendship. In a relationship such as a marriage there is a different prospective, you get everything from that person. You have the good, bad, and ugly to deal with on a daily basis. As friends, you have limited exposure. Personal flaws don't have to be nearly as evident as friends.
For instance, with my ex, he was verbally abusive when he drank and he was a flirt. As friends I'm hardly affected by those actions but in a couples setting, I was greatly effected by it. Or the fact that I have a horrible credit report due to being stupid when I turned 18. Those previous choices effected financial choices my ex and I were able to make within our relationship, however, now it really doesn't effect him.
We love one another, that hasn't changed. But how we love another has. We agree we are much better off as just friends. We weren't right as a couple, but friends is something we will always be.
2007-01-29 05:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jennie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am friends with both my Ex's. While my first Ex and I were incompatible as a couple we are able to get along as parents to our 2 girls and 5 Grand-kids. Where as my second husband was/is a cheater in our 20 year marriage I do respect his advise when it comes to other aspects of my life. He was my best friend for 20 years. As for not staying married, fighting/argueing was a waste of time and got all of us nowhere. Life is too short to be unhappy when all it takes is a court to set every thing right
2007-01-29 05:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uusally the party that caused the divorce says, oh we can be friends, but you are living in a dream world. You are civil because of the children, but the pain and hurt left behind does not go away. It gets less with time, but the memories of what was done will always be there. The party that wants to be friends, just wants to have a clear concconsious. We forgive , but we do not forget.
2007-01-29 05:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases, its a better relationship to be "friends" than spouses. Maybe some can't make it married, and are better off being ex'es. Now this does not apply in all cases, but whatever is in the best interest of children, thats what counts. And if no children, then this is a good question.
2007-01-29 05:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, except if you have children together. Then you have to be civil to one another for the kids sake. Never speak ill of the other person and be a good parent,.
The ex is an ex, too much history, and knowledge about you. You have nothing in common, why would you want to be friends.
I would leave it at the curb unless kids are involved., and then I would exchange pleasantries only when I had to,
2007-01-29 05:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would want to intend that the friendship which she had with you is in jeapordy and he or she is conscious it. it would want to intend that she feels the friendship she had with you is lost on the grounds that she feels you now no longer evaluate her a chum of lengthy status. In different words she is conscious you do not approve of her marrying your ex and having somewhat one and feels she has lost your friendship because of this marriage. do not you imagine that your lengthy status friendship is properly worth protecting and salvaging even with the incontrovertible actuality that she married your ex? Why enable what she did difficulty you because it would not have some thing to do with you yet merely your ex? Why do you should care if she marries your ex or no longer? i does no longer yet i does no longer enable some thing like that come between me and my strong chum of 20 years. Why do you should? provide her the great aspect about the doubt and ignore what befell and start up renewing your friendship.
2016-12-03 04:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some couples can remain friends but being married is so much different than being friends.
2007-01-29 05:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by happyblonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am friends with my ex. He had a great personality, he just couldn't keep his d!ck in his pants and he doesn't like to work. Oh, and he wouldn't stop doing crystal meth while we were married either. He has since quit the meth, but he's still a wh*re and a worthless bum.
2007-01-29 05:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absoultely , most of the times , when you arent married you get along better then when you were married , because there was one or 2 things in that relationship that didnt work , and some can talk to each other , and get along great as long as you dont live with them or have to deal with them everyday
2007-01-29 06:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by mamajo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can but that depends on why you two split in the first place!
Marriage and friendship are two very different things,
when you are married it is not only about sex but also responsibilities.
when you are friends, you may have sex with he/she but definitely you don't have any responsibility with that other person.
2007-01-29 05:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ray C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋