My daughter is 18 month old - so I don't think it's a post-partum thing. My husband and I have sex a 2-3 times a week and it's always really good....but I'm not taking about sex, I'm talking INTIMACY. You know, where you like to stare into each others eyes, hold hands, cuddle on the couch --- those things. Hell, at this point I just want to feel comfortable doing any of those things. He's always trying to be helpful and supportive, but sometimes that drives me crazy too. What's wrong with me?
2007-01-29 04:55:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have a baby. that's why the intimacy is gone. a baby in the house will change all of the dynamics. because what was between you and your husband has now gone into the baby. and because of that you two no longer have the energy to be intimate with each other. but this will have to be a process. maybe you can have a date night two times a month. but some way some how this will have to be an effort between both of you.
2007-01-29 05:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'v heard that its normal. Everyone I know who has had a baby complains about issues like this. Youre lucky that youre still having sex at all! It will just take time. You need to force the intimacy back slowly but surely. What's keeping you from cuddling with him on the couch? Youre probably tired out from holding and touching and hugging and cuddling with your child all day.;
2007-01-29 05:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens. A lot of hormonal changes occur during and after pregnancy and you are also probably tired from taking care of your daughter. It will get better, take it one day at a time, and make absolutely sure that you take alone time for YOURSELF when you go to the mall with girlfriends or hang out without baby and husband in tow, and have date nights only with hubby. It will bring romance back into your lives. Good Luck.
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2015-01-28 12:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife went through a very tough 4 years of post-partum depression after our second child was born. I really couldn't do anything for her.
2007-01-29 05:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could very well still be experiencing a hormonal imbalance. And, post-partum can last up to two years after the birth of a child. Talk to your doctor.
2007-01-29 05:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Post partum.. I wont say depression but definitely hormonal changes. Especially if you are breastfeeding, this will occur. It's natural for the focuss to be on the child rathen than the couple. you just have to work at it.
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