My husband does a a decent enough job I guess fixing things around the house but it takes him forever to do it and he always makes a horrible mess. I would much rather call someone and get the job done quickly and professionally but I dont want to hurt his feelings. what should I do?
2007-01-29 04:53:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am married to a man who's answer for every household problem is "Duct tape"!! He can't fix anything, and doesn't try! That is irritating! Repair men get costly, and they don't always do the job right either! I usually end up learning how it do it myself, which leaves me wondering exactly what I need a husband for???!!!
Count your blessings! If he is motivated to at least TRY to fix it, then support him! If the clean up part bugs you, then you clean it up! Marriage is about sharing, right?
2007-01-29 05:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought that perhaps he LIKES doing these things? Why deprive him of something he enjoys doing?
So, what should you do? Say "honey, I noticed that it takes a long time do these chores and you make horrible messes while you re doing it. Is this something that you really want to do? We can hire someone to do it, but I get the feeling that you actually enjoy the tinkering so I thought we should discuss it first."
Problem solved....if he hates doing it then he'll start hiring it done because you've given your approval for him to spend time on other things he enjoys more. If he hates spending the $$ then you'll know it and can say "ok this broke so let's do without for x months while we save to have it fixed. If he likes to do it...well then be glad he doesn't like to hang out at strip bars with his buddies and move on.
2007-01-29 13:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by digdowndeepnseattle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is saving ya'll alot of money doing the repair jobs himself. It may make a mess but if the job gets done don't worry about a time unless it takes him a year to lay tile in the bathroom then try to compromise. Tell him he can tear it out but a repair man should put back together again.
2007-01-29 13:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. My step dad starts to fix things and never finishes...he leaves holes in the wall, Our yard is torn up, and he keeps thinking of new ways to tear up our house. On top of that he goes to help someone else with their house before finishing our house. It drives my mom nuts!!! Just hire the pro...he'll get over it. Right now my husband is trying to fix what was never finished. Sure his feelings will be hurt, but it's better to get the things done than to get upset over the messes he will make and how long he takes.
2007-01-29 13:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To keep the peace let him try his hand at doing things then calmly tell him that certain things just require a professional what i do is i try to give my husband "side" projects like building a pantry rack, or rolling cart or a fort for the kids to occupy him so by the time he gets done he's too exhausted to bother with other household items... or simply tell him what you just said here makes sense. Good luck
2007-01-29 12:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by selina t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be the man of the house and fix the problem, so I say just let him. It probably makes him feel good that he has accomplished something where hes needed. If hes moving too slowly for you, I suggest you give him some assistance, get involved, it might help.
2007-01-29 13:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by ILoveMe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let him... even though he makes a huge mess! You are lucky enough to have a husband that will fix things around the house.
2007-01-29 12:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by MARJ213 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he does a decent job what is the problem....Ive owned homes for over 20 yrs only twice have I hired anyone to do work at my home. Through tis time Ive learned a great deal, taught my son alot about home maint. And saved thousands of dollars.
2007-01-29 12:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call them if you can afford it and get it done quickly.
Once you have hired someone, then there should be no problem.
The reason it takes so long, is cause he doesn't want to do it or doesn't have the energy to do it all at once.
If he is working man, he needs to have relaxing time.
He might beef at first, but will probably be happy in the long run, cause he doesn't have to do it.....
2007-01-29 12:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I tell my husband that if he wants to fix it he is more than welcome to do so. However I give him a time limit if its not done then I will call a pro and its going to cost $. So normally if he knows he can fix it then he will. Otherwise he tells me to go ahead and call a pro :)
Good Luck
2007-01-29 13:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by baby_thumper_girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋