Do you think god will forgive me if I have to get a divorce? It is not for selfish reasons, it's because I'm afraid for myself and my one year old daughter. He has anger and drinking issues and is going to Iraq, and I'm afraid when he gets back they will be worse. I'm afraid of how bad things might get, since they are pretty bad now and he does not want to take our problems to a counselor, which makes me think he doesn't want to change and wants to keep me at home where he can keep his thumb on me. Actually, he's said he doesn't care - pretty much every time I tell him he's hurt me, or if something bothers me, or if I tell him he needs to get himself under control and stop cursing at me in front of our daughter. Do I really have a reason to be afraid or am I just sensitive? Oh jeeze listen to me I sound like a battered wife. I'm also afraid of how to go about leaving him if I have to, because I'm afraid of what he will do. Any advice?
2007-01-29 04:44:08 · 10 answers · asked by .*AnNa*. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do sound like a battered woman - although it may just be emotional battery at this point, you are being abused!
God will forgive you, that is what He does best! Although, since you appear to be a Christian, have you tried praying for your husband?
God does not want you to get divorced, it says that in the Bible. However, God does not want you to be abused either. Instead of getting on Yahoo and asking all of us what you should do, you should get on your knees and ask God. Pray about it - He will answer you!! Pray for your husband too. It will be hard, because I'm sure you are very angry with him, but pray that he will find help for his issues.
If you and your child are unsafe, you need to leave him. You will be forgiven and God will provide the answers for you as you go along. Have faith! Good luck!
2007-01-29 04:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your answers home page describes you as, " Married to a great guy serving in the Army! We have a wonderful 10 month old daughter that is lots of fun, such a sense of humor!!! Interests outside my family include Social Science and Psychology. I hope to have a career in the Human Services field - helping young adults that have problems with drugs/alcohol and/or who are mentally ill."
Your question sounds like the exact opposite.
Which one is it?
I try to keep an eye on this forum for calls for help. Is yours a call for help or is it a Psych lab study or are you trying to justify finding a new man to be with while your husband is in Iraq because you are afraid of being alone?
If you want to really talk about the tings you mentioned, you should discuss them with your pastor. If you want, you can email me but the first thing I'll ask for is why is there such a contradiction here?
2007-01-29 05:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bill G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's abusive and un-responsive to your requests to change, and you're in fear of him, then it's time to leave before your fears turn out to be the ugly truth.
If you're that afraid of him, leave him plain and simple. Whether he's here or overseas, get out now before harm comes to you or your daughter.
As far as God goes, I think he gave you free will so you could act on your own accord to protect yourself and your daughter when you needed to. So don't worry about God forgiving you for getting a divorce.
2007-01-29 04:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes God will forgive you for this since you are afraid for you and your daughters life... This is a valid reason for divorce and seperation. Go to http://www.drphil.com and contact him through the email on there and ask him what you should do in this case... I am sure he will have great advice and counsel for you! Be safe!
2007-01-29 04:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
god couldn't care less, hon... our tiny, insignificant lives aren't worth a cup of warm spit in the scheme of things --- don't be so egotistical to think that god cares.......life is meant to be enjoyed --- you get about 80 years, a blink of an eyelash in the history of the universe. Everyone deserves a loving spouse, and the chance to be one in return, and if you are fearful to stay, what ARE you thinking???? Leave!!!!!.... you'll never be sorry. Find some one worthy of you, and maybe get a session or two of counseling yourself!!! to find out why you think you deserve so little in life.... An abusive, drinking husband??? Who won't go to counseling??? Hon, run, before he flattens your face... You deserve better....
2007-01-29 05:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please dont wait...get out now..I dont agree with divorce. I was brought up to stay together thru everything. My husband was abusive, didnt work and caused all kinds of problems. I still thought it was my job to stay. I found out he was cheating on me and I have never looked back. God is a forgiving God and he will not look down on anyone. You need to protect yourself and your daughter. Please take care of yourself.
2007-01-29 06:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by nascargirl216 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy and feel threatened in your marriage and afraid then divorce him by all means but do this before he goes to war don't decide while he is there fighting for our country.
2007-01-29 04:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your life and well being are at risk, then you have to get out of there. God is very understanding =0)
2007-01-29 04:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I agree with what "LadyHewitt" said.
2007-01-29 04:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to change him
2007-01-29 05:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋