what do you expect from your wife and how do you help her around the house??? And if she had surgery scheduled in a month for her arm (the dominent arm) what would you do to be of help to her or would you just forget about it because it is not your pain so it is not your problem.
2007-01-29 04:34:15 · 13 answers · asked by cruisingalong 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he's worthy of being called a man, he'd take care of his spouse when she needs him, regardless of what it entails. If it's doing all the housework, he'll do it. If it's changing diapers and cooking supper and helping kids with homework at the same time, it's all good.
A marriage is your 100% and his 100%. When one falls, the other picks up the slack untli they're able to carry their load again. That's the way it should be.
2007-01-29 04:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife works now, but she was home for two years after the birth of our second child. I always help around the house. I especially help with the children...I do the bathing every night as well as bed time stories and overall getting them to sleep. I consider night time my time with the children and I enjoy doing all the palying and parenting from 5:30 when I get home until 7:30 when it's bed time.
If my wife was having arm surgery, I would do my best, but I work full time, so there is only so much I can do. If it was in my budget I would hire some help, but it would depend on how bad things were after the surgery.
To be honest, my wife's married friends tell me that I do a lot more than the average husband.
2007-01-29 05:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in the absolute wrong place to figure out a relationship problem you are having with your husband. He is either not as bad as you are try to imply here or he is a jerk who you have made worse by catering to his whims. Now you need him to return the favors and he thinks he should not have to. I also suspect you might be trying to use the upcomming surgery as an excuse to take a household chore vacation but your husband does not see it that way. Perhaps you are the bad guy and not your husband. What is the rest of the story?
If the situation is exactly as you describe then are you using Y/A to gather ammo to fire at your husband to show him he's a cad. Bad idea. If the situation is just as you described, then the two of you need a marriage counselor to help both of you rebuild your relationship is a healthy way.
I may not be the best husband out there but I would take care of my wife, do the laundry, cook and clean as needed to help her. At the same time, I also know as a healthcare worker that the surgery you describe is not a reason to veg out. My wife would be doing more than I would want her to do to hold up her end of the house-work.
Email me if you want to talk but it sounds like both of you need professional help.
2007-01-29 05:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by Bill G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, reading the other posts, I wonder too, is this something you are planning or going through now? if the later, I am sorry.
for me, being the breadwinner, and a wife at home with 2 small girls in school, I would first try the following (assuming she is incapacitated and can't really move):
1. shift my schedule around for her (there are Federal laws that support this in medical cases)
2. work from home if I could.
3. hire a nanny or a helper to come in when there is an overlap of time when i cant be there.
4. work with other moms/dads to get to the school on time.
5. mother in law or other relative to help out.
6. temporary cleaning crew (if I couldnt get to everything)
7. get support from things like "dream dinners" or other catering services.
lots of options, but the main thing is the husband must be willing to pursue them and at what cost.
2007-01-29 07:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by perfect_picasso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both my wife and I work. I am the "breadwinner", but I still cook, clean, do laundry, take care of the kids, etc. I don't do this because I am told to do this - I do these things because I love my wife and don't expect her to do all the household chores just because she is a woman. If she was going to have surgery, I would take some time off to be with her, take care of the kids, do ALL the chores, etc. That is what love and marriage are all about.
2007-01-29 04:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by Da Tiebreaker 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I love helping my wife out around the house... She helps me too. I would definitley help her if she was sick and had to go through surgery.... This would be my problem as she is my wife and we are one flesh... I love and cherish my wife and when she hurts i hurt.
2007-01-29 05:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I help my wife at home all the time. I wash clothes. I cook when she is tired. I take out the trash. I mow the lawn. I do whatever is necessary to keep the household running.
2007-01-29 04:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I cook, I clean, I do yard work, and I take care of my kids. So does she, except I do more of the cooking because I am better at it. If she needed it, I would take care of her, as I do whenever she gets sick. I love her and will always be there for her.
2007-01-29 04:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by ninecoronas2000 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if your husband is a man, im assuming, he would make your ailments the most important thing, whether he like s it or not.helping out around the house? well hes either a clean freak , like me, or hes a slob. either way , you married him , you deal with it ,lol
2007-01-29 04:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by rockstar_livin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do anything the i can to help my wife, if she have surgery i will take care of her so she can get well
2007-01-29 04:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋