Is it possible to have a healthy, satisfying, NON- drama filled friendship with an ex you use to be completely in love with? How likely is the friendship to work and be 100% strictly platonic?
2007-01-29 04:20:01 · 10 answers · asked by Raynebow_Diva 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is possible to go back to being friends, but that friendship will never be the same as it was. Different dynamics and all. THe likelihood depends on BOTH parties, and I'd say it has a better shot if it IS strictly platonic.
2007-01-29 04:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Atropis 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely possible - passion fades, so our romantic interest in someone could decrease, leaving friendship in its wake. Many relationships are built upon strong foundations, whether they be just friendships, or romantic relationships. Either way, there's something at the core of this relationship that makes you both like each other, want to be around each other, and genuinely care.
You'll have a history together, yes, and after a break-up you won't be instant friends. There's lots of emotions to deal with in the aftermath of that. But given the time it takes to deal with a break-up (coping takes anywhere from weeks to years, depending on the nature of the relationship), the people involved can be friends. If the passion's just not there, but the friendship remains, it can be easy to maintain that in a platonic sense.
2007-01-29 04:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, even if your break-up was harsh.
My parents are a good example of that.
They were married for 12 years, had four children, he was a philanderer and a head case. They got divorced and there was a great deal of tension that went along with that.
Long story short, it took about 12-15 years before they were really friends. They were pleasant to each within just a few years but there was still venting etc. Finally they were fine with each other.
I think it depends on whether you would have been real friends over the long haul if you hadn't been romantically involved.
For instance I have no desire to befreind my ex but we have only been apart since Spring of 2005. We are still entagled in financial battles.
I guess it's one thing when your break-up consists of hurt feelings and it's quite another when those hurt feelings inspire one person to try to destroy or magnify the pain and suffering of the other in one way or another for purposes of revenge.
Back to your question. . .unless you have unresolved issues along the lines of one of you is still inlove with the other to some degree I think enjoying a platonic relationship is quite possible.
It becomes even more possible when both of you have moved on in life and put your former relationship in the past.
You are able to look back and say we had some good times and maybe remember that crazy thing we did that one time or whatever but you are not compelled to try to reserect the past.
2007-01-29 04:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by octopussy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this depends on the ppl involved and their personalities. As long as the two know that it's nothing but a friendship. But then too there are always those memories of the past relationship good and bad and sometimes feelings come back to haunt you.
2007-01-29 04:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Noclue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I've known people who have been in love with someone and then remained friends after the breakup, it didn't work for me although I made a concentrated effort. I still had leftover emotions and I found out he didn't respect me, even as a friend. And damn shame too....he completed me.
2007-01-29 04:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by behrmark 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine it with any of my exes, but my friend Kim is friends with just about everyone she has ever dated. She has warm, healthy friendships with all of these women, even hangs out with their new girlfriends.
2007-01-29 04:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I knew,trying to do that right now,lol. I think it CAN,IF both people KNOW it's platonic,and agree. Otherwise,you can be friends with benefits,lol
2007-01-29 04:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People delude themselve all the time.
True love does not fade.
So if the Love was not true I doubt if the friendship would be also.
2007-01-29 05:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
goodluck is all i have to say . i have allways found it strange when an existing partner is still good frinds with their ex. especially when they are spending way too much time with them. i dated this guy once who lived with his ex. it was so wierd but i guess they had become dependant on each other
2007-01-29 04:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by jason s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's possible if you parted on good terms without regrets on both sides
2007-01-29 04:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋