I have a boyfriend for a long time already.
He has met my family and everything.
He has been there for everything!
I can say I love him.
But what about the next step.
We have talked about sex.
But I feel that I am to young.
But then I feel that we should.
I have urges to have sex to.
Bu what should I do wait.
Or let things happen.
We have done everything besides Sex. tooo.
But What NOW?
2007-01-29 04:15:37 · 34 answers · asked by xMercedesx 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You ARE too young to have sex and to do everything else you said you have already done. You are 14. Can you financially take care of a baby, live on your own, support yourself, finish 4-5 more years of school all while taking care of a baby?????No. You can't even legally work in this country at 14 so why would you risk getting pregnant by having sex in the first place. Having sex is a huge deal. Not just the act of having sex, but the responsibilities that come with it if you get pregnant. There are 40 year old woman that can't handle it and they don't have as many strikes against them as you do. Get your mind back on school and a real future. You can have a boyfriend, but get him off of you. YOu can make out and stuff, but you are both too young for anything more than that no matter what you have been through together, He's in it mostly because he can do anything he wants with you and to you. Great deal for him and he can bail when you get pregnant and nothing will happen to him. You get stuck with the baby for the rest of your life. You mature day by day and in a couple more years this guys will be replaced by another guy. I know you can't believe that now, but it is so true. I got married when I was 18 and it is STILL the stupidest thing I have ever done with my life. The divorce was the best choice I could have made. Get your education, 8-12 and then college taken care of before you jump into the I love him game and I want to have sex just because. Right now don't just let things keep happening, you are in control of your life, but if you do get pregnant, your life will be happening too you instead. Pretty horrible way to live, being told what you can and cannot do. This will happen if you stay on this course.
2007-01-29 04:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I had sex at fourteen. it sucked. The guy doesn't know what he's doing, he only cares about what he feels. it isn't going to be that great for you either. Emotionally you won't get what you need out of it either. You feel all these emotions and think it's love, and it might be, but there are better manifestations. Let him woo you for a few years and work for it at least.
At sixteen, I was in a more stable relationship and thought it would be good, and the sex was until the breakup. The relationship was just take take take on both sides. I grew up and he never did. At twenty, I met my husband. Then i wished I had waited for him. Too late, you can't get it back.
On to birth control, it's not 100% trust me, I have seven kids.
2007-01-29 04:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are much too young for sex and I know you don't want to grow up with your baby. Think hard about this, IF you get pregnant, who will support the baby? Do you have a job? Does he have a job? Are either of you educated enough to get a job?
You'll mess you're entire life up by making the wrong decision now. Sex is not for 14 year old teenagers and you are right when you say "I feel like I'm too young".
2007-01-29 05:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think having sex at 14 yrs is too young. You seems to be a person with high self-esteem and I know urges can be really strong at times especially when you are deeply attracted to the person. Most girls at the age of 14 I think would have already have sex with their boyfriends. If he could wait this long I think if he really loves you, he can wait a little longer. Educate yourself before you make that decision. I'm rootin for ya!
2007-01-29 04:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by seasamshan_312615 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG! Are you ready to be a mother? Even if you are on the pill you can still get pregnant. Sure you have urges to have sex, that's life.
Sorry, but you are still a kid. teenagers don't really know what romantic love is. I hear all the time on the "love song dedications "I love him and we've been together a whole month." That isn't love. That's infatuation. Love is working together to build your life. Working for a common goal. Going through the hard times and the wonderful times TOGETHER.
Wait til you are married before you have sex. Give your new husband a special gift - YOU.
2007-01-29 04:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by Dizney 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You are way to young honey. What about the possiblities of pregnancy? Or even STD's? Because no birth control method is 100%. I would just be content doing the other stuff for now. Do you really want to be one of those girls that you see on television that are young and are pregnant and alone because their boyfriend ran away when the baby happened? You really need to think this through. Your body is going to go through a lot of different hormones at your age, but you should try your best to resist them. I know that it may be hard because of peer pressure and everything, but wouldn't you like to be able to give yourself to the man you love on your wedding night? Don't make the same mistake that I have made and a lot of other girls have made. Yes, granted I am 18 and now pregnant, and married, but I had a few pregnancy scares when I was young, and believe me that's no fun. Plus, if that's all your relationship is going to be about, then you two aren't meant for one another. Take care of yourself, honey and don't worry about the pressures of sex now.
2007-01-29 04:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is too young. If you ever have any doubts about it, you should most definitely wait. There is always the chance you could get pregnant. You are going to remember it forever, so why not make it with a person you will spend the rest of your life with? Wait it out- you will be glad you did.
2007-01-29 11:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately these days, there is not right age to start having sex...We like to say wait till marriage, but who are we kidding, right? I would say if you have to decide what is right for you, first you need to weigh the pro's and cons of doing something that has such immeasurable consequences.. 1st, will u be responsible enough to always use protection..2. if u do use a condom always what will happen if it breaks, or slips off..because it happens.. quite frequntly even w/ proper use..3 if u ended up pregnant... are u mature enough to make a choice responsibly to be a mother..will he stick around to be a father.. How will your parents feel when they find out u are sexually active.. because trust me..one day in the heat of the moment u might forget a condom wrapper or just get caught... can u handle that responsibility..I say do what u feel is right for u.. but whatever it is, let it be ur choice, not his or any elses
2007-01-29 04:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by candyred1999 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You are old enough IF:
You can handle hearing glass shattering screaming 24/7
Want to wake up every 2-4 hrs
Throw away your youth
Change diapers every 2-4 hrs 24/7
Spend a small fortune on diapers, milk, clothing, crib, swing, ect while sacraficing anything you want or need
Give up all your fun
Take care of a sick, puking baby with diarhea
That is just a small list of what to expect. Even if you use the pill or condoms things happen. Nothing is 100%. For God's sake you aren't even old enough to drive!
Bottom line YES...WAY TOO YOUNG.
2007-01-29 04:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Just wait, it will all work out some day. Just think, if you do have sex then you might get a disease and what if you get pregnant?? you will be putting a weight to take care of the child on you, your bf and ,your family just wait a while till your life settles down.
2007-01-29 05:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by Marines Sister Forever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋