My mom says when I was like 5 and having a b-day party, classmates would ask me if they can come and I'd tell them no because they were too ugly.
When I was in school, I used to ignore girls who would talk to me if they weren't hot. I would just stare at them like "why da hell are you talking to me?" Why am I like that?
2007-01-29 04:15:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well dear, you sound pretty darn shallow to me. Perhaps it is time to see what YOU have to offer other people before you consider what THEY can offer you!
I cannot answer WHY you are like that. Perhaps it is because you have bought into the mainstream images of beauty like so many in your country. Perhaps you do not know how to see beneath the surface of things. Whatever it is, you are losing out, ripping yourself off. Some of those "ugly" girls have much to offer, and, once they mature will be the beauties that shallow men dream of! They will certainly have more depth of character than a female who is concerned only with self and appearance.
I also think your parents should have taught you better the first time you used such rationale for a birthday party at such a young age. Perhaps that is when you began to think it was "ok" to judge looks from your godlike perspective. I really am curious as to what you base your "superiority" on. Be careful because that is slippery footing. You might not like what you find if you have the ability to be painfully honest with yourself.
When you look in the mirror, do you see someone you like? Do you like the person you see? I have a feeling you might not be as great a gift as you think you are, and you know it.
As for "Why da hell are you talking to me". That is just plain rude! No one who has that kind of attitude can be very appealing to anyone with scruples and values. Rudeness demeans even the most beautiful among us. This includes you.
I raised two exotic daughters, known for both brains and beauty. Neither ever lacked for a surplus of male attention because of good personality and all those things you would consider "hot". Both would have aced your qualifications for "hot". I give thanks that both have the ability to see beneath the surface of people in their lives, including the young men they have dated.
The older, a great beauty, who would certainly pass your standards with flying colours, preferred to hang out with the nerds because they all shared love of maths and calculus. She was pierced, tatted and absolutely alternative but wholesome and a jock. She seeks and dates men for their brains not their looks.
The younger chose to date hotties in the beginning but swiftly learned to prefer nerds usually made a better success of their lives in the business world. She went through a short judementl stage, the one you are stuck in, but found out it got her nowhere. She also saw that a lot of the cool guys were basically jerks. She was one of the girls boys at school dreamed about but knew was untouchable. Very "hot" by your standards I can guarantee. The nerd she chose now owns several of the coolest alternate clothing businesses in the city with franchises in other towns. He is no beauty, but he is a nice guy.
You are cutting yourself short by being so shallow. Get beyond the Jessica Bland Simpsons and the other vapid hallmarks of American beauty and meet some real young ladies. You might be surprised how much fun a girl might be when she pays attention to her mind instead of ONLY her face. Beauty alone does not make for conversation and wit, things that survive long after the wrinkles set in!
The big question is..... You know what you are doing. You see how you are. You know you are losing out by short-changing yourself. You can change if you want to. Do you plan to go through life making such shallow judgements on everyone you meet?
"No I did not accept that job as Pres of IBM because the employees were ugly!"
"I did not invest it that stock. Yeah I know I lost millions, but the sales agent was a bow wow."
"Yeah I know he was the better man to run the country but I voted for his opponent cos he was nicer to look at. If we have to see him on the news every night we want a prettier president!"
"Yeah I dropped outta high school because my Physics teacher had zits and the Math prof was fat!"
This is how intelligent your rationale is and how, applied to all your life, could come across. You have to admit, it sounds rather funny, don'tcha?
Did you ever consider that the coolest girls in school might occasionally harbour the same losing ideas about boys, including you? With your manners you do not sound like a winner darlin'. Rudeness is never cool and those who laugh it are losers as well.
Grow up, face reality, and perhaps the next time you see a normal girl, talk to her. Like a person. You might be surprised at what you find out! Be brave. Step out of your comfort zone and be nice. You really might be surprised at what you find.
Often you have to dig for what is of value.
You know what you have to do. Now just do it.
2007-01-29 05:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong with it... It is a human beings natural, inborn tendency to follow after symmetry. However it is of the higher more cultured intelligence, to be able to see the beauty in anything.
Even babies will go to an attractive face or body before an ugly or out of proportion one.
It is always the gradual familiarity of the personality of the person involved that changes that inborn tendency in anyone.
I had a fat aunt when I was a baby, and I loved her best because she was cuddly and always happy to see me... I found out as an adult that other adults didn't feel the same way and that she was often ridiculed by strangers in public and even by family at home for being fat with HUGE boobies that I loved to sleep on as a child.
No wonder she was always happy to see me... I loved her for her.
It didn't matter to me what she looked like.
It takes a certain intelligence to be able to love someone that is not aesthetically symmetric at a glance. Often what is inside, under the ugly and or fat that makes someone what they really are. Same goes for all of the expectations people often have of beautiful people that are completely shallow and hollow inside a perfectly porportoned outer shell...
I know some really beautiful people... that seemingly lack a soul!
2007-01-29 04:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Lol, don't worry about that so much. I've been left standing there while friends get hit on by guys. It doesn't bother me that much because i've gotten used to it. I'm sure many other girls feel left out too but that's life I guess.
2016-03-29 08:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because our culture place too much value on appearance. Plus you're shallow. Maybe if you opened up your world you'd find that there are many, many, kind and loving people who weren't blessed by good looks. Try to look into peoples heart. Who knows, maybe you're ugly. If you're not,maybe someday you'll have an accident or disease that disfigures you. Would that be sweet karma or what!
2007-01-29 04:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Wow.... already shallow at 5 ? Are you sure it has nothing to do with your family upbringing ? Did your family preaching the concept of pretty and ugly all the time ?
2007-01-29 05:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Because you are shallow. I wonder what girls think of you.
2007-01-29 04:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth Howard 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
cause ur a shallow bastard,,,, u could have a ugly kid one day and i hope u do.... u cocky son of a *****..i. bet u get ur *** beat by some ugly girl and be put in ur place.. which is in rosie o'donells ***. smoke all day....*****
2007-01-29 04:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Knox 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋
You are not being snooty, you are just eclectic..
2007-01-29 04:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by buzzwaltz 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋