Do any women ever regret not having children?

Question

I quite often hear women say they don't want to have children and wonder if when they get a little older, if they wish they had?

Answer 1

I adore children but made the choice not to have any of my own. I will tell you that it is personally sad when I hear people in their much later years struggle to make end of life decisions on their own accord because they never have had children to help with these choices. On another note, noone ever really has a guarantee of what their relationship will be like with their child throughout their life.

Do women have regrets about their choice not to be mothers? Yes, I do at times and would believe others do too.

Answer 2

I am 33 and have never really had any desire to have children. I think in these times it is quite scary to raise children and I never wanted to be a mother. I think for me I always thought it was better to know that in advance and that I was a woman regardless of whether I gave birth. I don't regret that decision. I love children I just never wanted any of my own. I think I was always afraid that I would screw them up & I never wanted that hanging over my head. I have a niece, 2 nephews, a goddaughter. I have all the children I could ever need. :-)

Answer 3

My wife never had children and has never been pregnant. She had a great career and some not so good relationships when she was younger. She says that she came to terms with it and now that she has so many physical problems says she believes that God knew what was coming in her life and she wouldn't have been able to take care of them now, so she is at peace with it. She has always been very close to her Nieces and Nephews and they really love her back. These relationships fill her heart and we have 3 furry four legged children for her to love as well.

Answer 4

LOL How about asking women who have had children if they regret having them? It might give you some insight into why some women don't want them. And don't have regrets.

There is nothing abnormal with someone deciding they don't want the responsibility of another human being for the rest of their life.

Answer 5

My husband and I choose not to have children a long time ago and we have not regretted it. We have been married 23 years and our marriage is a great one.

Answer 6

My husband and I have decided not to have children either. He has four already from his first marriage ages 12-5. When they come around its pure chaos. Having them for short periods of time has made me realize that I do not want a child full-time. Not to mention the financial strain that kids can become.

Answer 7

No. i don't regret not having any chidren and i don't wish for any. I am 33. and i don't have any children...completely by choice. i don't have any children because i don't want any. that decision was solidified when i had my tubes burned and an endometrial ablation. i haven't regretted it. children take up a lot of resources. financially, emotionally, physically...something that i don't want to do. i love my life and i love my freedom.

Answer 8

I don't regret it at all.....I knew when I was 26 that I did not want to raise kids, (and No that does not mean I don't like them, I actually do like them, just don't want to RAISE them)

I see my friends now and it just seems like such a HUGE hassle to have to deal with them, I have also seen lots of relationships get ruined because the kids take up all their time.

I am 42 now by the way.

Answer 9

I've only known one couple who chose not to have kids, they're in their 60s now, and have not regretted it yet. Married for 20+ years and enjoying life.

Answer 10

I don't understand this either. It's not normal. I think it's a psychological issue--probably afraid of something. Maybe it has to do with their own childhood. Every woman I know who doesn't want to have children has had some sort of issue with her own parents.

Whatever it is, they sure are missing out. Having children is the meaning of life!