Help ex is driving me crazy!?

Question

married many years, spouse lied, cheated, drugged , alcohol, stayed out all night, partied never wanted to go out with me, etc, did however work hard and provide for family .. somewhat.. left 8 months ago, now he is always there calling, showing up at my house, following me. showing up wherever I go. totally loves me now and wants to be with me. what is up with that? I will not give him the time of day but he still wont leave me alone. I need to move on with my life. wasted to much time waiting on him now its over. What to do?
also how can I delete this question?

Answer 1

OKAY YOU NEED TO GET YOURSELF A RESTRAINING ORDER. AND TO DELETE CLICK ON YOUR FACE AND SCROLL DOWN TO YOUR QUESTIONS AND CLICK IT AND CHOOSE TO DELETE.....DONE

Answer 2

The next time he calls, tell him to call no more. If he persists, you can contact law enforcement about phone harassment. He won't go to jail, but will have to pay a fine, and be told by a judge to stop calling. If this persists, you will have enough to get a protective order(commonly known as a restraining order). These are not just for cases where you feel threatened. If you are "harassed" enough after a relationship fails, you have the right to have him ordered to leave you alone. If he fails to follow those orders, he is disobeying a judge, and will be in more serious trouble.

Get an attorney, they can get you through the process. This could be considered abuse, so you may be able to get help through the local Women's Crisis Center, or whatever local organization you have.

Answer 3

Sadly, I think a lot of people don't realize how good they had it (or how much they loved someone) until they're gone. Maybe that's what's going on with your "ex". The grass is not always "greener" on the other side and it sounds like your "ex" has just found that out.

If you truly feel that it's "over", then you need to make that very clear to your "ex". However, if you have children, you will need to find a way to deal with the "ex" for the sake of your kids.

Hopefully, your "ex" will soon realize that it's "over" and stop bothering you. Maybe they just haven't given up "hope" yet. If they continue to follow and bother you, you may have to seek some legal advice or an order of protection to ensure that you can "move forward" with your life.

I wish you well. Good luck.

Answer 4

Don't know how to delete the question, but... He prob. realizes, maybe, what he lost, and that is why he's doing it. Regardless, you need to explain to him, as calmly as possible, IT'S OVER. LEAVE YOU ALONE. If he doesn't get this through his head, you need to contact the police, and file a restraining order, as this COULD get dangerous. He has NO business following you around and harassing you. I would just tell him FLAT OUT, leave me alone, or I WILL go to the authorities. AND DO IT. This could turn really bad, good luck.

Answer 5

I know EXACTLY how you feel here since my ex is the same way. I think that once we are really gone they realize how good they really had it. As I was once told my ex thought the grass was greener on the other side of the fence only to get there and realize that grass was pretty brown. My stupid mistake was believing that he did LOVE ME & WANT to change his ways (all similar to yours), I took him back and I will tell you now he DID NOT change and a week later we were back in the same boat. I have left him again and I have been away from him for 5 years in March. Just stick to your guns and continue telling him that you DO NOT want him and he will eventually get the hint.

Answer 6

He is a leech! He didn't realise how good he had it till you got rid of him, and good for you! He deserved everything he got. You are doing the right thing by not paying him any attention, this guy needs to move on and find someone else to exploit. (If you feel that he is stalking and it gets worse, I would consider calling the police and getting some sort of restraining order).

Answer 7

Have you told him to leave you alone? If so and he's still bothering you, then I would notify the authorities, and see if they can stop him. Stalking someone, is against the law. Just tell them you don't want him around, and he keeps harassing you. As far as deleting questions, just go to the menu you get your answers from, click on the plus sign and go to delete on the drop menu, right under the question.Click delete.

Answer 8

You need to get a restraining order on him.he has no right to try and follow you and contact you when you are clearly done with him.You took the proper steps to get the divorce now you need to do the same and get the restraining order.And as far as deleting your question I think you go through MY Q/A and edit.

Answer 9

I have actually experienced something like this in my first marriage. It is called ABUSE. Look in the phone book in your area and look for a shelter for abused women. They can give you lots of support, counceling and most of all......RESTRAINING ORDERS for little to no cost. Even if it did cost something, it would be worth it so you can move on with your life anew. Maybe with a restraining order, he will get the hint. Good luck to you!

Answer 10

file the divorce papers and move out. if he continues to harass you, file a restraining/protective order. or at least call the police so that you can have it on record each time it occurs. makes situations much easier in court when you have proof that hes been stalking you.

Answer 11

Yes, tell him to leave you alone or you're calling the Police. Do the restraining order thing.