First Baby due April and it's scary!!!?

Question

Everyone keeps commenting on the giving birth and asking if I'm nervous - which I am - but nothing compared to how scared I am at actually having a little baby to care for.

Was trying for baby for long time and financial I am prepared and I love my bump like nothing else I've ever know - Which is why the thought of doing something wrong and messing up is so frightening.

Is this normal or do you think I'm not ready?

Answer 1

I think every woman reacts differently, im 32 weeks due at the end of march or beginning of april depending on my lil babe.
I am a fanatic worrier about money, and being a good mom, being a good wife......my hormones drive me NUTS. And it makes me not want to be preggo anymore.......i feel like im a faliure already and then i have my days where im fine, im excited to be pregnant and cant wait to paint the babys room.

Next time your in with your doctor ask em. They deal with it daily :)

Answer 2

I am sure that you will be fine, its normal to worry, my wife is due or 3rd baby in 3wks and even she is worried about delivery. Talk through your options with your midwife you will get a good chance to do this when you complete your birth plan. I know that there is alot of horro stories about giving birth but thats just a selection of people, many people have a good labour and birth. You wont do anything wrong in labour as quite simply you cant, my wife suggests that you listen to your mind and nody, if you want to walk about then do that, if you want tp push then push, she also suggests trying different positions such as squatting and kneeling. Tens machine are good during labour and also sitting on abirthing ball for the 1st 2 stages can be really great for taking the pressure of your back and pelvis. Take a cooling spray in your labour bag and anything else that you feel may be a comfort to you. I know you might not think it now but once your holding your baby in your arms you will forget all the pain/discomfort of labour. good luck

Answer 3

Youre not the only person feeling like this - My first baby is due in March (7 weeks time) and I'm really scared, I'm scared about the birth and how much my life is going to change and how I'll cope with no sleep
All of the people I have spoken to about this say its completely normal, does'nt help when I'm awake during the night worrying about it all though.
I'm sure everything will work out fine !!xx!!

Answer 4

I think your feelings are quite normal. You have undertaken the steps of preperation for which I admire you both. You are entereing into an unknown area which will be very time consuming for you to say the least (but in a good way). Your feelings appear to be normal and when baby comes along it will all soon fit into place with time. I felt like you some thirty years ago and soon got into the swing of things truely. In fact I am to be a GranMa in May for the first time and I am thinking am I going to be a good GranMa, it is a feeling of the unknown. So you enjoy your last few months and prepare for arrival with calmness. If you feel that you need to talk personally to someone, I suggest your personal health team will give you re-assurance. Jolly Good Luck to you both and baby.

Answer 5

The last trimester of my pregnancy I was so worried and scared. Am I going to be a good mom, how am I gonna know how to care of my little boy, will I make the right decisions? Every possible question or doubt I could have I had. It is perfectly normal to be scared. I do the best that I can and ask my mother alot of questions.

Answer 6

Completely normal!!

You can't and won't mess up, you obviously have so much love to give that the baby is sorted already. Remeber no-one is perfect and parenting is a learning curve. You will always be learning about your child whatever age he/she is.

The best tip I could give you for when your little one is born is to go with the flow, do what's best for you and your family and trust your instincts - you know your child better than anyone.

Good Luck and relax and enjoy it. It's the hardest job you'll ever do, but nothing beats it!

Answer 7

it is scary. i'm 26 weeks pregnant with my 2nd (my son will be 8 in june) and I'm starting to panic. people tell me "well you've been through this before" true, but i'm pretty much starting over, but as soon as this baby is placed in my arms all will fade away, and i'm sure it will for you too. these worries you have are normal, DO NOT doubt yourself, i'm sure you will be a wonderful mother. and as for the doing something wrong part, you probably will but don't stress that. everyone makes mistakes, even parents. you have to live to learn. i'm sure everything will be fine and regardless of anything your child will love you unconditionally (even if you mess up). so sit back, relax, and think of days to come. don't stress the small stuff (i need to take my own advise haha) CONGRATULATIONS, GOOD LUCK.

Answer 8

I think it's completely normal. I felt that way about my first, and still do actually. He'll be 7 this summer! I feel the same about my second, too, and he/she isn't even born yet. It's completely natural, and I think it's because now we have to care for someone other than ourselves. We want to make sure we do right by them. I'm sure you'll make a wonderful mother. Try not to worry and just enjoy it! Best wishes.

Answer 9

Don't listen to 'old wives tales' people just like trying to scare ne mum's. I felt like that too and my oldest is now 13 - a stroppy teenager is more scary than a new baby - only kidding. I went on to have another two, now 10 and 4.

Answer 10

i was due in April and i have just miscarried mine and had to give birth to a beautiful baby boy and it is true what mums say who have had children it is just like having a good poo really. it is very painful i don't want to scare you if you are having your baby the natural way then it painful but once it is all over just think of hold your beautiful baby after all the pain...... you will be fine
trust me.

good luck honey