Deciding on having Abortion or not...?

Question

I have a delimma. I will try to explain as easily as possible. I'm 8 weeks pregnant. I am financially stable (make close to 6 figures a year) and have been wanting to have another baby (I already have a 2 year old). When I told my family they flipped and said I would be destroying my life based on the fact that my ex (who got me pg) was a horrible boyfriend and basically a born loser. They say he will cause nothing but heartache and drama if I have the baby.
I work as a model and my disappointed family say this will ruin my career even though I will only be out of the game for about a year....Today is the day I am supposed to get an abortion but I really feel confused. Emotionally and financially I am ready for another but how do I deal with my families comments and disappointment? I have told them they need to stop trying to control my life yet anyone who has been in a situation where parents are like this, they know how hard it can be.

What should I do? Abort or keep it?

I am a single parent...not that that makes a difference.

Answer 1

With such mixed feelings, you need to cancel your appointment. This is a huge decision, and should not be made when you are in such an emotional state.

Ignore what your family says. Put it totally out of your mind and think only of yourself for a moment. One of the first things that you said here was 'I have been wanting another baby'.

I think that is enough right there to know what your choice should be. Being a loving mother already, you know how wonderful children can be, and I doubt that when you looked back on this, you would be happy that you terminated the baby.

I think if you go ahead with the abortion today, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

You want another baby and you are financially stable. The 'horrible loser' is out of your life, and you have taken a mature look at your career and how the baby would affect it.

Based on what you have said, I think you should KEEP the baby. Your family will love it just as much as they do your other child, and will be glad that you didn't take their advice.

I know my mother is glad that I didn't listen to her when she tried to talk me into aborting my son. He's now almost a year old and the light of BOTH our lives.

Good luck, and congratulations on baby #2!

Answer 2

I found myself in a similar situation over 10 years ago, and I did not abort. At the time, I also had a 7 year old from a previous marriage. I am happy to say, I have a well adjusted 10 year old daugher today. Her father was not a good partner, but he's been a very good father to her. I have no regrets, but I am the type who would not get over an abortion very easily. It all depends on how you feel about life and where it begins. If you plan to have more children in the future, this could be something that comes up and you may experience feelings of regret. I know a few women who have had an abortion and never really got over it, while others never thought much about it. In your situation, I would not abort. Especially since you seem like you could handle it financially. My family wasn't too thrilled about my situation, but I was lucky as they all came around and were very supportive. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Oh my keep the baby and tell your family to be supportive or mind their own business. There are so many people who long for a child who can't have one and your two year old I bet would be thrilled with a sister or brother. Reach into your heart. How did you feel about your baby before your family got involved. Your baby now has a heart beat and a face forming. Would you do this to your 2 yr old just wipe them out of existance b/c a family member siad they were bad for you to have around. The fact that you are contemplating abortion just breaks my heart. In fact I am 12 weeks pregnanct and tears are running down my cheeks. Please don't. There are lots of people and support groups to encourage you. Haven't you watched discovery heath channels baby show on pregnant models they are beautiful women & I bet you are too. This decision will weight on you forever but don't you want to meet your child???

Answer 4

I think that since you want this baby, if you have an abortion, you will regret it. You don't wanna live with something like that. Don't let your family tell you how to live your life. Do what you want and if you have to ask this question, then somewhere in your heart, you don't wanna do this. I would keep the baby and if your family don't like it, remind them that it is your life and you can make your own decisions. Good luck and I hope all goes well.

Answer 5

NO WAY!!!!!!!. Forget about abortion. Do not let you family force you to do this. It is not right and you know it too. You are an adult you are working your own money sodon't let you your family run your life. That Ex- boyfriend of yours forget about him. Listen honey they are many women out there that would love to have at least one child and will never have the chance. The good Lord blessed you with one child and now he has blessed you wit another. Having a child is a gift from god, something very precious. If you want this child keep it. Doing an abortion I know for sure that you are going to regret it for the rest of your life. If your family is not ok with it. Tell them that it is their problem, do not turn your back on them but don't let them force this issue on you. For christ sake you r mother had you she didn't abort you, give that precious child inside you that is growing a chance to live. May God go with you.Pray and ask god to guide you.

Answer 6

dont base haveing a baby cause you can afford one lol. theres a reason you family is talking to you about it they simply want you to think about the fact your kid will not have the life you can offer if you find a good man . but saying oh , well i can afford one so its easy as that. no. if you simply want a baby an dont care that it wont have the life your capable of giveing a baby in the future an are prepared to have disapointments for you an the rest of the kids life from the dad then fine, but i would suggest at least giveing the kid somewhat of a start by trying to find a decent man willing to help so you can cut the looser out of the eqasion. stop duelling on old feelings for this looser

Answer 7

you said it yourself you wanted another baby, and God decided to give it to you, don't make life altering decisions on what your family thinks. as far as your career you will get your figure back, and modeling is not a long term deal, looks fade, and you are hot until the next cute thing comes along, you came to us to help you make the right decision, keep the baby once he or she is born everyone is gonna be in love with they baby, tell your family you understand there feelings but they need to but out, look at your 2 year old and just think if you aborted that child.

Answer 8

Keep her! Your family will love your baby as soon as you tell them you are keeping her. They will get over it, your career will not suffer, and you life will only be enriched by having this baby. You have plenty of money to provide for this baby and plenty of love in your heart for her. Don't kill her, please. She is a little person that wants to grow up and be loved by you and her big brother/sister. This will be good for your other child, too.

You will regret it for the rest of your life if you kill this child. Most women who have abortions have long term depression and are on medication for it becuase of the guilt. You may have difficulty getting pregnant again - if you are able to at all - and you wil have a 50% increase in risk of getting breast cancer.

Answer 9

Honey, it sounds to me like you want the baby, but you are too woried about keeping your family happy! Let's just say you went ahead and had the abortion..could you deal with that knowing that you only did it to make your family happy? So what if your boyfriend is a deadbeat? It's obvious that you aren't, and I definatley wouldn't let my family decide someone else's life. Trust me, you need to do what YOU think is right, and if your family wants to gripe about it than so what?! You're the one who has to live with yourself everyday. I personally don't think this is something you want to do, just by reading your question.

I say keep it!
Good luck in whatever you decide to do

Answer 10

You have to decide what is best for you and your family. Dont listen to me or parents or anyone else just you-what do you want? If you have an abortion you dont want to make your family happy then you ruin your happiness. Only do it if it is what you want to do. I would advise adoption but realize how hard that might be with a child already. Good Luck to you.