i have this male friend who is like my best mate, but i don't fancy him in any way and he says he does'nt like me. People always hint we shud go out etc etc but we always deny it. We have always said that it would be to weird if we went out and that we did'nt want to ruin the frienship we've got. The trouble is recently i found out from other friend that hes been asking him i fancy him so apprantly i make it obvious. since then he has'nt reli spoke 2 me properly an acted slightly funny. In my opinion i dont even really flirt with him, if anything id think he like me but becuase of the situation i no he does'nt. So now im really confused and don't no how to act around him can any1 help??
2007-01-29 03:09:08 · 9 answers · asked by nicky s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
short answer, straight guys aren't "friends" with women unless thay wish the "friendship" would turn into something more. We will deny it until the woman initiates the "relationship" because we are close and we would rather be close and empty handed than give it a shot and loose her forever.
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2007-01-29 03:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but men don't 'always think their female friends fancy them' ... when my now husband was taking me around introducing him to all of his friends after our engagement, I noticed that there were MANY WOMEN who 'looked daggers at me' because I'd 'caught him' ... they had 'obviously tried' to get him interested in them, and had 'failed' ... to him they were 'JUST FRIENDS' and I had managed to get him to 'make that leap of faith' into a 'relationship.' So ... try telling him that the two of you need to have a 'serious talk' and that means that you BOTH will be both listening to and talking with each other. ASK HIM if he has been 'wondering' about a 'romantic relationship' with you, and tell him what you 'think' you should do ... but DO NOT bring 'anyone else and what they might do' into this, because it is about 'only the two of us.' I did that because I was confused ... and while the man I did that with and I have been married for ten years now, and are happier than ever every day, I know that it couldn't have happened if we hadn't had that first 'serious talk.'
2007-01-29 04:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-29 03:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by xeibeg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason men become friends with women is often because we like her as a woman but she won't date us so we settle for being her friend, in the hopes that someday she'll change her mind.
What she thinks and feels about us really doesn't matter - we're hoping that she'll change her mind and come around to liking us as a man, no matter what she thinks now.
2007-01-29 03:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't. I have no interest in my female friends beyond friendship or I wouldn't call them friends.
I might say things to flatter them sometimes because they are female, and they need those ego strokes to compensate for a relationship where we talk about things my guy friends wouldn't talk about, but that's it for me.
If there is confusion, clear it up, end the friendship or whatever you have to do. Don't be obtuse or send mixed signals.
2007-01-29 03:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest sitting him down on a one on one level and being completely blunt with him...im sure hed appreciate it the bluntness...and you can either move on as friends or not ....but keeping it in limbo feeling awkward is never a good thing
2007-01-29 03:24:25 · answer #6 · answered by LeiMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys dont really want to be friends with women and that is a fact
2007-01-29 03:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a feel good factor
2007-01-29 03:15:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be his over-inflated ego at work.
2007-01-29 03:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋