letting baby cry it out?

Question

My son is now 9 months old and for the last 3 nights I have let him cry the 1st night 1hour, the 2nd 45mins and last night for 1 1/2 hrs. It doesn't seem to be working? What am I doing wrong?

Answer 1

it's working it's working!!don't give up cause then you did all that for nothing!
try going in at the 5min mark then 10min then 15, you get the drift.
until he falls asleep and before you know it he'll go to sleep on his own. He just need to figure out how to sooth himself. so do th esame thing every night like turning on the mobile and giving him a soother. Baby's like rootine.
I did this will both my kids and it worked.

Answer 2

If you are just now trying to get him to go to sleep by himself you should not let him cry for more like maybe 20 minutes An hour or more is WAY too long! If he hasn't fallen asleep after 20-30 mins he's more than likely not going to. To your child this will feel like abandonment. Just try no more than 20 mins to begin with. If that doesn't work try rocking him to calm him. Then try again. A couple of nights later you should wait a few mins more before going to calm him. This way he is able to get used to this change and can understand it.

Answer 3

Get a bedtime routine in place. My baby is 10 months and this is what we do:

Brush teeth
Bathtime
Baby Massage & get P.J.'s on
Read a Story (you can never start this too early!)
Bedtime Bottle
Lights Out

I do the cry it out method, too. But, I only let her cry for 15 minutes before I go in and soothe her. (this assures her that I am there, so she doesn't think I have abandoned her) But I don't pick her up. I just lay my hand on her and shhhhhhh.... and tell her its night-night time and to go to sleep. She is getting much better every night. She goes to sleep within 5-15 minutes now. Also, she used to get up several times in the night. Now she only gets up once. the books say it's becuase she needed to learn to go to sleep on her own - they called it "self-soothing".

One more thing... Make sure he isn't hungry or need changing, or otherwise uncomfortable. An hour seems really long to cry.

Also, make sure to put him down drowsy. Not asleep or wide awake. After bottle, I cuddle with my baby for a bit until she is really sleepy, then I say prayers, tell her I love her, and then say night-night and lay her down. She wines a bit as soon as I say night-night becuase she knows what that means now. I just stay with her a minute and then walk out of the room. She will cry for a minute or so, and then settle down and go to sleep. This took about 5-6 nights to get to where she is now. Just stick with it.

Answer 4

Ok, Darlene...do you have kids? It's kind of difficult to "teach" an infant good sleeping habits, especially when some of them are used to getting up to eat every few hours. I also think if you had kids you wouldn't be so ignorant to say you'd call the police and social services. Your comments make me want to rip my eyelashes out. Babies cry. Letting him cry it out will be rough for a while, but eventually he'll get it and sleep through the night. I know, from experience, that it's hard, but keep it up. I found that putting very quiet music on repeat through the night helped my son, when he woke up he heard a presence. It's important to not come running every time he cries or you'll never get a good nights sleep.

Answer 5

chances are he's not ready, feeling insecure and abandoned. you have a nonverbal child that for all of his life has been held and loved and comforted everytime he cried, now all of a sudden its tough luck so sorry i'm going to ignore you.
how would you feel if you were in a foreign speaking country and your guide abandoned you with no warning?
its not uncommon for a baby to not sleep through the night to parents expectations till they are 1 or later. 6 hrs at 9 months is considered sleeping all night.

Answer 6

Are you going in and checking on him? We tried this, but had to go cold turkey with my son. He kept getting riled up again when we'd go in and leave. Once we did the cold turkey cry it out, it only took 3 days and he was sleeping through the night and going down like a champ. His crying time also was significantly reduced.

Answer 7

You really don't have to put yourself, and your baby through this!

Get the book "The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night".

Answer 8

Are you going in and picking him up at the end of these time frames? If so stop, he learns that he will get rewarded. It takes about a 5 nights to work it out. My friend swore by ear plugs to help but I couldn't do that. It took us about 5 nights. It got longer the 3rd day also, and then lessened. Good luck

Answer 9

What you did wrong was not teach him good sleeping habits when he was younger.I really dont think the crying for such long periods of time is gonna help.It might make it worst.If I lived near someone that had a baby crying for such long periods of times I would call the police and social services.So becareful because you never know what your neighbors thinks is going on.Cut him down to one nap a day.If he goes to bed at 8:00pm then his nap should be no later then 12:00pm.A baby who is not sleepy will not go to sleep.Routine is good.It works for all kids.At 7:00pm the house gets quiet.At 7:15pm he gets a long warm bath.At 8:00pm it is bedtime.

Answer 10

Keep it up within a week it should work but really make sure you dont talk to him alot and you only go in like every 15 minutes lay him back down and rub his head for a little bit.