So I am having quite the problem. I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now. The 1st 3 mths were OUT OF THIS WORLD. I am so scraed it was just infatuation. For the 1st 3 months I have never been so happy in my life. He brings out the best in me, I LOVE doing nice things for him, I love living with him, he is caring, genuine, trustworthy, & VERY attractive. But the problem is I am questioning my love for him CONSTANTLY. This has been going on for the past 2 mths and I dont think that I would be putting up with this anxiety about our relationship if I really didnt love him? I feel like I am analyzing every move he makes and I make myself think that I get annoyed with him voice, his actions and his emotions. To this day, I love sharing all my stories with him and enjoy spending nights alone with him. I have never trusted anyone before in my life and finally I trust him which makes me think that I dont care about him. I think before I used to think I loved them cause I didnt trust them and was jealous of them. This is my 1st non-dramatic relationship and I feel secure but I have this nagging doubt in my mind that its not going to work out for whatever reason but I only want him. I dont want anyone else to touch me. Why am I having these thoughts?
2007-01-29 03:02:00 · 10 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are over analysing --- and the fact that you trust him shows so much love --- look at it all from another angle --- everything you have said indicates that maybe for the first time you are truly in love --- enjoy the ride ---- and believe that this will last forever ---- my best wishes to you both
2007-01-29 03:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a lil scared and that normal epically with everything you just said, and if you didn't love him you wouldn't still be around. SO I am guessing that you do love him and everything else you said just take it slow and you could always try telling him whats going on in your mind if he loves you he will help you. Now I am kinda going threw the same thing with my bf I LOVE HIM with all my heart, and I haven't had these feelings for a guy sense my 1st love so I know my feelings are real, but I told him the other night that I was scared and we sat and talked about everything what was going on in my mind and he helped me threw it. And that's one of the reasons I love him so much. Well good luck, I hope everything works out.
2007-01-29 11:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply because this is something new, if you think it...it will happen. 3 months was the honeymoon phase, and relationships take a lot of hard work. You trust him, you dont even know how important that is . Consider yourself lucky and make it work, dont over think it...old habits are hard to break.
2007-01-29 11:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you feel secure, if that was fact you wouldn't be going through this. Obviously your past relationships have had a bad effect on you. Make it simple for yourself. Tell yourself that you love him and that is that.
2007-01-29 11:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that was what you were used to. It's different now, accept it for what it is. You sound like you own worst enemy. Let go of those feelings and be in love.
2007-01-29 11:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a true, undefined feeling....if ur questioning it then ur in a strong like but if its way too strong then yea its a possibilty its love!
2007-01-29 11:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your having these thought's because it is your first true "NON DRAMTIC" relationship. Or maybe your having these feelings cause you really don't love him your just inlove with the way he makes you feel BIG DIFFERENCE.
2007-01-29 11:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by redneck_dixie_darlin_1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You smothering him, allow him to breathe!
You should give some of that energy to some charity , Stop analysing him and start analyse yourself and your behaviour.
2007-01-29 11:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try not too think too much...enjoy moment....
2007-01-29 14:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY I DIDNT READ IT ..TOO LONG :D
2007-01-29 11:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by poison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋