My wife who used to be my confident and companion has regressed to just one step above my children when it comes to having a conversation with. It is more than that though. I am out in the real world all day long with real issues and other adults. She has friends that she and the kids do things with but they are all stay at home moms also. They all live in a very narrow and very protected world. I make a good living and I am happy she can stay home but I would like her to be a wife as well as a mother. Many times it truly does feel like I am the only adult in the house. She does take care of the kids, that are not the issue, but many times I come home and whatever she has been thinking about all day and wants to talk about is as crazy as what my 5 year old want to talk about. Does anyone else have this issue?
2007-01-29 02:51:35 · 10 answers · asked by Johnny S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should try to get her involved in outside things, esp if the kids are old enough to be in school. Most stay at home moms are really great people and wouldnt mind volunteering in some community project. It would get her out of the house and dealing with adults.. tell her you find some flyer at work for some organization looking for help (go to volunteermatch.com and find something shes like in your area). Shed be dealing with adults and would have something more grownup to talk about when you got home.. If shed tell you the truth she probably misses the 'real world' that youre living in too. Order some magazines that she could read (Time, etc) that would keep her more in the loop.. Good luck.
2007-01-29 03:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by PenguinsWife 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You stay home with the kids for a couple of weeks and see what it is that you have to talk about. It's hard especially in this day of age for a woman to stay home with the kids. There are so many opportunities out there for women, that they don't have to be dependant on a man. So, when a woman makes the choice of staying home with the kids to make sure they always have someone there for them and to take care of the house hold and give up her independence then, the husband should be greatful, even if she doesn't have much to talk about that interests you. Otherwise she can get out there get a job, and you can split the responsibility 50/50 and you get to clean the house, cook, and take care of kids, and she can go find conversation suitable for an adult. How dare you say your wife is only one step above the kids, she has sacrificed herself for her family. And here you are whining about conversation, take a step back and a real good look, the immature one here, is you.
2007-01-29 03:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like someone needs to smack you upside your head. Your wife is home all day with the kids and you get upset because that's her conversation of topic when you get home. You need to realize that your wife has no one to talk to all day except for the kids or parents with kids. You should be concerned about how her day went as well as her about yours. If you want "adult" conversation with your wife then take her out so she can act like one. Don't complain because you expect her to turn off "mommy mode" when you walk in the door. Why not try helping her with the dishes and getting the kids tucked in so you can spend some adult time with your wife. Instead of complaining about the problem, try finding a sollution that will work for both of you. She deals with enough whining all day, she doesn't need it when you come home from work too. Thank you and good luck.
2007-01-29 03:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I did work outside the home then more kids came and it made more since to stay at home and raise them, i also homeschool them. i did run a daycare for 8 years. anyway there is no reason your wife should be such a mindless prole, there is news on the TV and radio she could and should be watching, the world is so much more than her little spot of it, diapers and the park. ask her why she does not watch it, kids are not that demanding unless u make them so, that she could do watch and listen to some during the day and be able to have an adult conversation with you in the evening.
2007-01-29 03:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No offense, but have you considered doing these two things more often:
1. Spend more time with your kids. take 'em off your wife's hands so she can go do adult stuff.
2. Hire a babysitter, and take your wife out on a date or to do some adult socializing.
2007-01-29 03:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
So you want your wife to be the housekeeper, the cook, the babysitter and some great conversationalist to keep you entertained. Maybe she would like a little time for herself. Time to go back to school, take a class in something she wants. Then maybe she will have something to talk about.
2007-01-29 03:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thank you so much. I was beginnning to think it was me. Seems like the more time spent with the kids the more they become a kid. I would die for a intelligent adult conversation. I guess the more we do the less we get out of it. What can we do?
2007-01-29 03:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a stay at home mom and my husband and I don't have those issues.My husband wanted me to beable to stay home with our children and I also wanted the same thing.We have a very real adult marriage with very real adult conversations.Maybe your wife is not happy staying home have you ever discussed what it is that she would like to do.Being a stay at home mom I deal with the real world everyday I take much offense to your tone and insinuations.Being a stay at home mom is the most important job in the world that no amount of money could ever be enough.
2007-01-29 03:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I am a stay at home mom who used to work. Women feel the need to communicate more....when I was working I would tell my hubby my work day & now that I am at home I continue to tell him about my day. But my objection to your way of thinking is.....'the real world exists only in an organization'....that is an artificial world created for economic enterprise. It is rife with politics, horrible bosses & mostly meaningless tasks. No personal growth takes place.
2007-01-29 03:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by Praxis 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Thanks for asking this questions it has really opened my eyes. Maybe my husband feels simular to you and I got to change it I hope your wife does to. Sorry you are going through this but if you all don't tell us this we would never know. you must tell her asap before it gets worse.
2007-01-29 03:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋