She is abrasive, nitpicking and a bully. No a break up doesn't seem like an option. My health is going for a toss. How do I cope?
2007-01-29 02:24:08 · 16 answers · asked by september_serenade 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seek counseling and help for you and this marriage... Is she abusing you in any way??? If she is then you need to get out now and be safe.
2007-01-29 02:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try building a new life without her. Not an affair, just a new life. You may not think that breakup is an option...like she would take everything in the breakup? Alimony? Fact is that life is short and when you are on your death bed you want to be able to remember the good things that made you smile.
So what would make you smile? Is having a good marriage the number one thing or would having a family that is good to each other matter?
Life is short. You already are missing out on happiness. And maybe health.
Over time you can see that making your world the best it can be is in everyones best interest.
Think about it.
2007-01-29 02:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that people treat you how you allow them to, you teach people how to treat you. You need to confront her on this, you don't need to be aggressive but you need to let her know in no uncertain terms that her attitude will not be tolerated. You deserve to be treated with respect and by no means put up with this behavior. She does it because she can, you allow her to. Nothing is worth your health and you have to let her know that how she is treating you is affecting your well-being. If she doesn't seem to care I think you already have your answer.
Your spouse is supposed to be your best friend who wants only the best for you. You deserve to be happy and you need to get some counseling. Ask your wife if she will go, if she doesn't then you need to go yourself to find out why you think it's okay for her to treat you badly. She seems like she has issues that she needs to deal with, maybe a little anger management might help. She isn't respecting you and that's bad, but you're not respecting yourself and that's worse.
Good luck and I hope you heed what I say for your own sake.
2007-01-29 02:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your health is being jepordized you owe to yourself to move on.
I don't care how long you've been together, you owe no one your life.
Do you have children? If so, don't you want to be around while they are growing up? - And even if you don't, don't you want to be around for a while?
How do you cope? You sit your wife down and put all of your cards on the table.. Tell her, if things are to continue on as they currently are you are going to have to say good-bye.
Don't just leave though, as that would be unfair to her.. let her know whats going on with you.
2007-01-29 02:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to ruin a relationship. Perhaps the wife has some issues with you as well. Either sit down and get to the root of the problem, or leave. Stop crying and trying to get people to feel sorry for you. You have a choice, it's up to you how you deal with all this. Thank you.
2007-01-29 02:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can take her to dinner, when she is in a good mood :), and really talk about how her actions are hurting you. Try to find out why she seems so unhappy. Maybe she will open up and talk about it. If not, then suggest counseling (sometimes it can help). If you talk like you are concerned for her and not upset with her, then maybe she will soften and open up. Good luck - she doesn't sound like much fun to live with right now. Proud of you for not giving up easily though!!
2007-01-29 02:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have kids, get out?
I dunno, man. You married her, and I am willing to bet she didn't suddenly transform into whoever she is now unless she had a serious brain injury.
Have you told her she's a nag? If you crossed that line and it had no effect:
Get a hobby, take her out on a fun date? Tell her you still see the girl you fell in love with while you hold her (when she's being nice or at least indifferent)?
Start working out, get in shape, maintian your appearance? Do you have any common interests?
2007-01-29 02:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your health is shifting than you gotta look at a break up as an option. You can't let her run you into an early grave.
Good luck bro.
2007-01-29 02:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by Myself 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you married the witch from Hell. PMS maybe? If I was acting like that, I'd want my hubby to kick me in the a**. She needs to realize what your feelings are. You're a man, Hon, handle it. As a woman I can honestly say, I respect a man who is confident and takes charge.
2007-01-29 02:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Tori M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Dear, Your Right, I'm Sorry. You'll be golden.
2007-01-29 02:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋