im 27 and afraid of the whole preg/childbirth thing. Really don't want to go through it, but feel pressure from family and friends to have kids.
2007-01-29 02:20:49 · 8 answers · asked by Ry126 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
they try to make me feel bad
2007-01-29 02:26:03 · update #1
Having kids is a complete draaaaggg! Most of the people today that have kids had them because it was a mistake and regret the hell out of it, even though they would never admit that to you.
They have to play the role of how great it is to have a child and they never regret their decision blah blah blah... then the next thing you know you see them fighting about who gets to go out this weekend and who has to stay home with the brat. They fight about what religion the kid's going to be, what school its going to go to etc etc.
And the way you really know they don't want their kid but feel obligated to it is when the inlaws are always watching the kid while the parents are out partying 24x7. They drop the kid off early in the morning and don't pick it up until it's bed time.
Not to mention the little phucker usually grows up to be completely disrespectful and a complete phuck up who drains you financially and then comes back at 25 years old to live in your basement.
Get a dog or a cat or something, you'll thank me, trust me!
And if you think they are going to take care of you when you get old, I got one word for ya....SUCKEEEERRRRRRRRR!
2007-01-29 02:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by huckleberry 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kids arent for everyone, and that's ok.
Pregnancy and childbirth are only the beginning and really arent that bad. The real decision is do you have the desire to raise and nurture them? If you are just scared of pregnacy and childbirth - you can adopt after all.
Truly a lot of people have children and arent really dedicated to parenting. Perhaps not everyone needs children.
That said I wasnt sure I ever needed one until I was about 27. Then I got a nephew and enjoyed his antics and decided it was time. When you want them the are 100% worth it. Love, amuzement and never a dull moment. .... You may just not be ready yet. I think the clock isnt really ticking until age 35.
2007-01-29 02:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, they ARE definitely worth it. Being a mom has been the most rewarding experience of my life. I wouldn't trade it for anything. The pregnancy thing was kinda fun -- no periods, and my boobs got bigger. You get a lot of attention, and people are a lot nicer to you--LOL. The childbirth part isn't really that bad, either as they have really good drugs to help you through it. And when it's done, you have a beautiful baby, a part of you, a new best friend that you made yourself.
Please don't be afraid, it's really a beautiful experience.
2007-01-29 02:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never feel pressured to have kids--that has to be a personal decision. But, as a parent, I will have to tell you there's nothing better...Most definitely it was right for me--that's the one person whom I love unconditionally 100%. My son is getting close to his teen years now, so there's some tough times with his "attitude", but we were all young once.....and we've all been through those rough years, so I try and understand what he's going through emotionally. None of us are perfect, even Moms. But, again to answer your question---yes, for me, it was more than worth it!! Do some heavy soul searching, and good luck, I'm sure you'll pick what's best for you and your situation. After all, you're still young--no need to rush into making a definitive decision right now.
2007-01-29 02:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by suz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you from experience, the childbirth part is a piece of cake compared to raising teenagers! I don't care how cool of a parent you think you'll be they will reduce you to tears more often than you could ever imagine. But, they will also help you discover how to love in a way you never knew existed. Parenting isn't for the weak!
2007-01-29 02:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you family and friends gonna raise the kid and feed it and live with it 24 hrs a day 7 days a week, are they gonna support its food for eating and all the clothing and diapers and formulas...are THEY gonna call it there kid and go to PTA meetings for 14yrs and teacher conferences..are they gonna be the discipinaries when the kid acts up? if soo go for it..otherwise if your not wanting a kid dont do it..you will ruin the kids life and your own I have seen it tooo many times!!!!
2007-01-29 02:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by Pastor Biker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only you know if its not for you. I love my son, but I have friends who dont want kids, I believe there is +/- to both.
2007-01-29 02:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by nyoo1578 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They'll take care of you when you grow old.
2007-01-29 02:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋