2007-01-29 02:07:08 · 12 answers · asked by leogirl 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Sorry, What is hard to realize is that she may be as sick as he is. Have you reported him to any authority such as the police? a school counselor? Department of family and child services?
The worst part is that she will never know what a blow that is to you and in most cases even if you tell her, she will defend his actions, giving him permission to keep doing it. You must get over you fears and get a professional involved or tell someone who can help get a professional involved.
The question that will be put to you is What do you mean, 'looked at her sexually'? Did he molest her ? Touch her? makes sexual suggestions or innuendos? harass her?
If the answer is no to all of these questions, then what are you really upset about? Ask yourself.
It is abnormal to have sexual interest in family members (except in certain parts of Alabama) and if he really did this then it is up to you to take action, but be sure that you are interpreting his actions correctly or you can make matters worse. Ask your self if you are just angry at him and her together and are misinterpreting his actions? If not, then take some action!
2007-01-29 02:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by cuban friend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question can't be answered sensibly without knowing just what you mean by " looked at my daughter sexually". Sometimes the imagination comes into play when trying to read what the other person is thinking.
Of course, he might have had sex in mind when he looked at your daughter, but maybe not. Don't judge unless you're sure of his intentions.
2007-01-29 02:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry -some women think they can't go on with out their husband- so they stay, or they just don't want to believe it happened,or it was a mistake,- they come up with all kinds of crap .
Keep your daughter away from both of them - If your mom ever leaves your dad maybe you can let her see your daughter again
Hope you pressed charges on her husband
2007-01-29 02:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity. She justifies her actions with the concept that he didn't touch her and it's normal to view someone he finds attractive. Her insecurity provides denial and selfishness. She fails to see what he did was wrong whether he touched her or just looked at her. Her selfishness is more concerned about her own feelings then the safety of her daughter. Until she realizes her low self esteem and seeks help, she will be in denial and will not provide that security for her daughter since she can't even provide it for herself.
2007-01-29 02:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason that she gives you will ever satisfy you so don't bother asking her. Some women can never see what and whom is standing in front of them even with the truth glaring in their faces. YOU need to decide what, if any, kind of relationship you are willing to have with your mom. She already made her choice, now you have to make yours. Keep your daughter as far away as you can. If you decide to forgive your mom, allow her to see your daughter only if she comes to your house, without that PIG, to see her. Be clear to your mom she is not to mention nor bring him near you and your child EVER! Be firm with this and this might strain your relationship with her But you are protecting your child. I she fails to see that then it will not be the first time she is blind to the truth. Do not pay attention to what "Mr. Right" said. You have the right to protect your child.
2007-01-29 02:21:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not be about you. It may be about you mom's low self-esteem issues. It might cause her to be in denial because she doesn't want to be alone. Have you confronted anyone about this? What did he do exactly? How old is your daughter? If you feel she's in danger, keep her away from him. Ask a professional for advice. Does step-dad have a history of this kind of behavior?
2007-01-29 02:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by Their Guardian Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you determine that he looked at your daughter "sexually"? Was he licking his lips and moaning? Was he pulling up her dress or something? Sounds like you just dont' like your mom's husband! If you are really concerned, don't take your daughter over to see them.
Oh I get it, you probably still live at home with your mom after getting pregnant and having your child. Ok, I get it now!
2007-01-29 02:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you don't seem to suggest that he laid hands on your daughter at all. You haven't given any indication that he did anything that was legally inappropriate. I'm not saying that he didn't, but that you haven't explained what he did in terms that would indicate anything improper.
This sounds as if he's not your father and you've got some objections to him.
2007-01-29 07:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm unclear as to his deed.
Did he touch her? was he innocently bathing her or was it a a intrusion?
I think you need to collect your own thoughts and talk to your Mother. If he is as bad as you may think she will watch out better and you'll watch your daughter closer too
Talk to her about life and keep friendly with her so she know she can always talk to you
2007-01-29 02:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by redefourit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would report it and keep your daughter far away from him. He is a sick person and your Mom surprises me that she is siding with him versus her own family. That is so sad...
2007-01-29 02:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋