It's been 6 yr in to our relationship with out any consern or help when I get ill. For the last yr I've worked very little out side the home but tend to house chores and kids (but I've worked 20 yrs prior to this) Recently I came down with the flu along with my kids then I sprainned my ankle. Insted of getting any help or sympathy I get a pissed off man who stomps around the house because he has to do my jobs (granted he supports the family) But what am I supposed to do I was told to stay off my ankle and it hurts damn it!If I don't mentioned what needs to be done he would lay on the couch the whole day and watch me struggle. After leaving the Hospital I called him to tell him about my ankle and he replied GREAT!!! (sarcasticly) When I asked him to get the kids ready for school he comes back with the reply I really don't have any choice do I. I mean this guy is pissed off because I am down. He got mad and told me to go back to work because of all of this. What is his problem?
2007-01-29 01:56:36 · 5 answers · asked by Tgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would not see this person or stay in the relationship any more... You really need to break up with him and move one. If he treats you this way now it will only get worse over time and trust me you NEVER want to marry someone like this.Take your kids and leave now and do not look back.
2007-01-29 02:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is his problem? ask him, sometimes men do not know how to deal with extra duties when there mate is down but it still gives him no right to treat you the way he does. He needs to address this and find out what his inner anxiety is about this. He most likely had a mother and father that were in the same abusive relationship. Sounds like he has been a little spoiled by not having to chip in and help. He may be the breadwinner but that does not mean he can just come home and kick up his heals and expect you to do everything. As he is finding out being a full time housewife is no walk in the park so to speak. The two of you need to address this this because it will not get better or become resolved until you do. If it can not be addressed go get help for yourself and learn what is not an abusive relationship.
2007-01-29 03:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by mellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men don't know how to show sympathy, it sounds crazy but it's true. I do have one question for you: how is the communication between you and your boyfriend? Is it possible that he doesn't realize how he's making you feel? This is why I ask:
My mother is married to a man who can be very sharp and unsympathetic. When my mom went through cancer surgery, I saw a completely different man....very scared, quiet and nervouse. Once we were told things were good again, he went right back to being "himself". There is no doubt that he loves her, but love is not always wine and roses.
So I guess my advice to you is this: you are the only one who knows exactly where your relationship stands. If its worth hanging onto then hang on, take the good with the bad. If you look at it and say that there is no common ground then maybe you need to think about moving on.
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-01-29 02:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Tracey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. You need to set him straight that he's acting idiotic.
2007-01-29 03:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by steemshovel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still with this guy. Maybe you are the one with the ISSUES.
2007-01-29 02:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋