How do you react and how does it affect you?
My Grandpa was diagnosed with secondary liver cancer. I can't be there for him at this moment and I always try to think positive and that he's gonna be able to make it. But after I heard what my mom said about his condition and how suffer he is, It breaks my heart.
I wish i could do something...
2007-01-29 01:54:05 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can do LOTS of things. Call him, talk to him in person, help take his mind off the pain of his illness. Sure, you know you can't cure him physically but mentally you can do SO much for him. Get to know him better by asking question about things he did when he was your age. Let him tell you about his happy childhood ANYTHING that makes him smile. Smiles are under-rated. They can really make you feel better. We all know our family loves us but when we're going through something like cancer it's nice to hear it and have our family show it by their actions. Make him his favorite dinner and share it with him. Make him a CD of his favorite music. That will help him relax.
Basically, love him and be there for him even if it just means holding his hand. Good luck! :)
2007-01-29 02:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by singlebravesfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say why you can't be there for him at the moment. Is it because of work obligations, or is it just that you can't deal with his state of health? You don't say what your mum said either, so I assume it was what is going to happen as his cancer progresses. Thinking positive is a good thing, but you must prepare yourself for the worst. Staying away is'nt going to help you. Did you stop to think that your presence might make him feel better? I think if you stay away you will regret it if he does'nt make it. My dad had parkinsons disease and alzhimers, it broke my heart everytime I saw him but he was so happy to see me, I could'nt stay away.I was with him when he passed and I'm so glad I was there to say goodbye and other things I wanted to say. It is very sad to loose a loved one, but I think in the long run it will help you to be there as often as you can. And it might make it easier for him too, and your mum so she does'nt have to go through this on her own. He is her dad, and no doubt she loves him and it would be killing her inside to see him like this, she needs support too, it broke your heart, imagine what it is doing to her! My prayers are with you and I hope he will pull through this. your reactions are normal, but you must deal with this and be strong. Hope all ends well and he will be fine.
2007-01-29 02:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be there for him even if it's a quick chat on the phone to tell him you love him and will pray for him. If he can't talk, then send a card with a similar message or simply tell someone on the phone to relay the message.
The realization is the expectation of death. You have to expect death to come especially with the elderly. Though it can be tough to deal with, it's easier when you realize they have lived a fuller life than most. There is nothing we can do to help a terminally ill person except be there if needed and to make their last days as pleasant as possible.
2007-01-29 02:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
noone can be able to pass through cancer and thats not a positive idea the best ting to do is being in touch with him make him feel that u love him try to make him laugh always do whatever u can to make him happy otherwise if u lost him without doing that ur gonna blame ur self the hall life
2007-01-29 02:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by markos zakaria g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The animals consume one yet another via first sin which grew to become into executed by skill of Adan. in the Bible says that we can consume any animal, only that we ought to empty each and all the blood from the physique. additionally in the hot testomony, which says in a financial ruin that Peter had a imaginative and prescient of many animals in a canvas (or internet), and Lord advised him to consume, yet he mentioned no, via fact the animals have been unclean (or unworldly) and God mentioned (translating from Spanish language): "do no longer call unclean what I even have sparkling." In different words: God is telling Peter that we can consume from the animals. additionally in the previous testomony, there's a financial ruin in have been it says (Sorry don't have the precise financial ruin on me good now) that Elijah had a flow of water to drink and crows that have been deliver by skill of God gave him meat in the process the day. So Lord gave him meat, he approves it. you may consume meat if there's no blood in it. And the animal chain grew to become into created via sin that Adan did, it is between the implications.
2016-09-28 03:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by lachermeier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to say only, that you should try not to be overwhelmed by such thoughts 'cause there have been cases when a person who helped another to go through a serious illness got sick himself/herself.
2007-01-29 02:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Aatami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad and my sister had cancer
dad beat it
my sister did not
all you can do is to pray for them and to LOVE THEM
give them all the support that you can
but try not to dwell on it and worry about it all the time
it will drive you nuts
and DO NOT back away from them
you will regret it
dont love them for the rest of their lives
love them for the rest of yours
2007-01-29 02:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave everything and be with your grandpa. Show how much he means for you. DONT MISS THE NEXT TRAIN/FLIGHT/BUS, rush dear, rush to your grandpa. You may never see him again and repent rest of your life. RUN............... RUN............FLY do whatever you can do to reach him.
2007-01-29 02:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by ndeepuachari 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray for him...
2007-01-29 03:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by #1 Girl -She's Bittersweet- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋