What was your situation and how did you deal with it? Did you two ever end up together?
2007-01-29 01:53:44 · 26 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I have. He was a really nice guy. First of all, he's separated from his wife for about four years. They have two kids (adorable) and they would share spending time with them however they arranged it. I do know that he had custody of the kids. From what he told me of the reason why they separated was that she wanted to party all the time and in the end, she left him. I didn't really judge it one way or the other. Anyways, the bottom line I had strong feelings for him (we worked at the same place), that didn't bother me either. It's just once I got to know him for about a year. I liked him more. But, later finding out his wife wanted him back. This had been four years passed and he wasn't sure if he wanted to do it or not. But, he did mention he would try for the kids sake and how I deal with it. I never told him how I felt (I'm glad about that). I just respected the fact that possibly the family could get back together. So, I looked and found another job and left without ever telling him. I didn't want to interfere or confuse him. Sadly enough, we never ended up together.
2007-01-29 02:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by ********* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a ruff one. Yes I have and to this day we have still remained friends. there was never any real contact other than some hugging and letting each other know that we care. You learn how to suck it up and go on and cherish the friendship. Remember the grass is not all ways greener on the other side. Chances are you will not be together and if you do it will only last a short time. Are you single and she is married? if so, and she leaves her husband for you, whats to say the same thing will not happen to you some day down the line. Meaning she may find someone else more interesting. Good luck
2007-01-29 10:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by mellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one will end up as long as one genuinely makes steps to understand the person even if not loved.
Whatever may be the situations, the thougt of 'end up together' should not come in the mind. Everyone has some positive attitudes and characters and if those are identified and nurtured the relationship / love that follows will be wonderful. Question of ' end up together ' never crops up.
2007-01-29 10:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Marks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that situation but I don't think it was love so much as infatuation. We were both married to other people at the time. The most we ever did was kiss, and we both realized that it was an impossible situation, and became great friends. We've both since divorced and married other people and I am so glad that we didn't force the situation.
2007-01-29 12:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Pink1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a relationship like that, she has been married for years but the marriage stopped being one of love and more of comfort with her spouse. Since she met me she is feeling things she never have felt before. We are working to be together even though its hard i am willing to give her the time she requires to know her decision is the right one if and when she comes to be with me. We both want to be together just takes time and understanding from both you and him and if he is willing to wait. Then if you end up with him it may be the most powerful love you have ever found.
2007-01-29 11:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been
My parents had found out about 6yrs ago that I had a relationship with this guy. They went crazy when they found out. I was locked at home. They told me that it would never be possible for us to be together but I still had hope.
Then his family decided that only one of us can stay in Canada. Since I am a citizen and at the time he wasn't, I decided I would go, little did I know that they panned on keeping me there and marrying me off elsewhere.
Much happened and now I am married and have a child. No, I didn't marry him, my first love, but he lives in my heart
2007-01-29 10:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by This is life! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes... I was in love with a guy who had just broken up from his girlfriend... and we dated a few months.. his family pressure and his ex wanting him back as soon as she saw me.. made him leave me for her and he married her shortly after cause she was pregnant. That was over 30 years ago... he has been married 3 times since, and is single now again...
We live hundreds of miles apart, and since we have been talking again the last few years we both know that we are in love again but I have a stable 33 year marriage to a man I also love and a family including grandkids and I am not about to leave them behind ..even though I would like to, just to be with him again. I figure at this point in my life, my happiness is not more important than that of my family and I would never do anything to devestate them.
So we stay in contact and we love from afar.
But if things we ever to change..I would be there in a heart beat.
2007-01-29 10:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in love with a man but had to move to another state. We didn't see each other for 24 years. I found him on the Internet and found out that he had searched for me for 10 years. He finally gave up, got married and had three kids. We did get to meet at the airport and about 1 hour. It was wonderful to see him! Hard to believe we could still feel that way about each other 24 years later. But we can't be together as he is married and his wife and kids don't deserve to lose him because of me. Sad but true.
2007-01-29 09:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am in one right now. Been married for 30 years, and have been having an affair fo 8. I love the other man, but will never have him. I'm content with my life now, and would end up losing everything I've/we've worked for in our marriage. No end situation. So, the moral of this story? NEVER HAVE AN AFFAIR!!
2007-01-29 09:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of times. I never ended up with them, but I have been married for 17 years and three wonderful boys. I haven't forgotten the other girls, but you always have to keep going until you find something that is not just right with you, but with both people.
2007-01-29 09:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Elwood P. Dowd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋