I have been with my boyfriend for two years, he is fun to be with and treats me well to a point but he is very unemotional although I am not really soppy and quite unemotional to a point it has already come to the no cuddles at all I cant remember the last time we had a cuddle. Should I just plod along or should I move on.
2007-01-29 01:43:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As hard as it may be, move on...Trust me... I'm there and it TOTALLY sucks!! Move on before u marry... please...u deserve to be happy!!
2007-01-29 01:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you really care for him you should talk to him about it. May be he has sensed some vibes that you do not like to cuddle. Most men do not realize how important cuddling can be for a women. They most likely jump to the next step and want to be intimate, when in fact the female really just wants to cuddle. I know the frustration this brings as I have been married to a man of the same symptoms as you describe for 10 years and he still does not understand the "cuddle" part of a relationship. Only you can decide if you should move on, ask yourself if you can live without the cuddle in your life? Because chances are this will not change to much.
2007-01-29 01:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by mellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sort this out now
At the moment it might seem OK but as you get older it will
It wont be much fun having no cuddles etc so if it doesn`t change soon think about moving on
Your only 2 years into the relationship Whats it going to be like in 15 years
2007-01-29 02:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Black Orchid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the choice is yours. Why just go through the motions if there is no emotion there. Sounds like you need to do something to reignite the sparks. It takes 2, so why not initiate the cuddles yourslef? If you always wait for the other person to do what you want, you will always be unhappy and unfulfilled. Talk to each other about your relationship and see how he feels about it too. It's time to either make a move to improve it or let each other go. I say try something new to spice things up before you give up on it.
2007-01-29 02:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him and expressed what you need from the relationship, if not then you need to before you decide what your next move is. Some people get so comfortable that they forget the little things that make a relationship. Is there anything that you could do such as cuddle him. If there is no response then maybe you are right and it is time to move on.
2007-01-29 01:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by christine w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is not meeting your needs - then move on. Maybe he has a hard time getting attached to someone. My boyfriend is not very emotional, but he shows his love in so many ways and he will cuddle with me if I cuddle with him. He rubs my back every night! Find a cuddlier if that is what you want - life is too short to settle. Good luck!
2007-01-29 01:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off by giving your bo some attention. Sometime things can be very tense in a relationship. We have to learn how to make first moves. There is nothing wrong with that. I know that making the first move is okay and you probably will break the ice. Good Luck.
2007-01-29 01:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jamonican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on is up to you, but I will say if he is unemotional now he always will be. You need to ask yourself if you will be happy married to a man that does not show you affection.
2007-01-29 01:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience I would say get out now (obviously talk it through with him, tell him how you feel and give it at least a month to see if there are changes)
But if this is the way it is gonna be from now on its just not worth it chick, you will start to feel undervalued and not appreciated, women like to feel like they are the centre of their mans world (well I do anyway) and if their not feeling that then it can be quite upsetting.
Relationships take lots of hard work and that needs to come from both of you, If hes not putting the effort in now what do you think it will be like in 10 years time.
Your staying with him out of comfort I suggest you will be happier moving on and finding someone who will give you what you need.
dont settle for that'll do because believe me it never will xxx
2007-01-29 01:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never just plod along else you will end up in ten years time unhappy and still plodding along.If its making you so unhappy,talk to him about it,if nothing changes then it may be time to move on.
2007-01-29 01:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know its not enough or you'd not be asking. Its hard after 2 years, but you'd both be better moving on. You need someone you feel totally connected with. The 'to a point' comment was the most telling!
2007-02-02 01:51:44 · answer #11 · answered by Ellie L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋