My two boys confided in me that my friend's son told them he was he did alcohol and pot. I struggled with telling her because I knew she would be in denial. Her son is an athlete in HS. I was very careful how I told her, now she is saying my two boys are lying. My 10 year old son actually heard her son telling my son in the same room. Now she is accusing both of my kids of lying. I thought I was doing her a favor, because I would be grateful for someone telling me for my own child's welfare. She told me he never did pot or alcohol then slipped and said he did admit to trying alcohol so I caught her in a boldface lie. Any advice?
2007-01-29 01:35:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You did a good thing by telling her. But if she doesn't want to accept it than thats her thing. I would leave it alone now. I know she is accusing your kids of lying but she knows the truth. She just doesnt want her son to be known for that or to be kicked off of the athletics team he is on. If they hear rumors, they will test him and when it comes back positive it will be over for him. She should be greatful to you for telling her but everyone handles certain situations differently. I personally would be greatful to you! So, just know that you did the right thing.
2007-01-29 01:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let the situation take it's course. If he is indeed in athletics in school, odds are the drugs/alcohol will start taking their toll on him and the truth will be known. I agree that you did the right thing, as this way she could have taken steps to speak with her son and help him. Some parents who live in the world of denial as to what their own children are doing, are truly their worst enemies. I would make sure that your own children do not spend anytime with her son. Children are easily influenced because they want to be cool and fit it, so don't let them be around what could be a bad influence on them.
2007-01-29 09:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your boys.
Now with this type of situation, beating around the bush WILL yield dangerous results, AKA "It's too late" syndrome. Meaning that you could be as sublte as you want, but not being blunt and defending your boys comments will cause lifelong turmoil between the families. If my friend was doing those things esp. in HS as an athlete, he is jepordizing his possible sports career. If his parents are in denial, there may be very little else you could do. They know, but don't want to admit to their blindness. If she lied about him experimenting with alcohol, then she may very well be lying about everything else he's doing. I suggest having your sons not intereact with them, for their safety. Last thing you need is to have them walk the same path as their friend.
2007-01-29 10:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she is in denial, that is her child. Noone wants to believe their child does these things. However, if indeed it is true, the truth will come out. Hopefully it will not come out in a bad way, but things happen. Just let things happen, take their course, and go with it from there. If the boy comes over to your house you can always talk to him and let him know that you told his mother of the things you heard, see how he acts. This could cause alot of issues with your children and this boy also. Be prepared. He probably told your son in condfidence and now he will feel betrayed.
2007-01-29 10:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know your concerned for her and her son. right now shes in a place that her son would never do such a thing. my advice is dont get sucked into this. but if you really want to make sure you know her son is doing these things because you dont want to be lying. ask your son to ask her son about if he really does pot and drinks, have your son ask him if he could try it and they would find a place to do it. take your friend and catch her son in the act. just to let you know your son will be acting this whole time he does not have to smoke. but in my opinion i would stay OUT. or ask the doctor to do a test on her son to see if he really does. its the easiest way to settle this between two families
goodluck!
2007-01-29 09:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should really let this one go. atleast now she is aware, and whether she believes you or not, beleive me, she will have a little talk with her son tonite....in the meantime, your job is done and you dont want to cause problems and overdo it with this other mother. just concentrate on talking to your sons, and encourage them to stay amazing and healthy. obviously, it sounds like you have two good boys, or else they would have never came to you in the first place. you raised them well.
2007-01-29 09:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by SassyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the boy to have a blood alcohol level taken and a urinary drug screen. It is the only way to win the argument and restore your families honor.
2007-01-29 09:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ben Dover - Contributor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did what you thought was right and there is not much else you can do for now. It's up to her to see the truth.
2007-01-29 09:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone ever wants to hear something bad about their own kids. Why even go there? Look after your own :)
2007-01-29 09:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by nomad943 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋