I have recently lost my job, been dumped by my boyfriend, and have just been experiencing a lot of lows in my life. I constantly look for jobs, go on interviews, but never get picked. I try to talk to my friends but I still am not satisfied. I am not wanting them to tell me what I want to hear but I just don't get much from their advice. I constantly deal with feelings of hopelessness and guilt and quite often I think of what it would be like if I just wasn't here anymore. I would not commit suicide but it's on my mind. I know that that is NEVER an answer (mainly because I have kids) but I am just feeling like I am lost. I feel like no one understands me. I know that I probably need some kinda therapy but I can't afford therapy and I am not getting any type of health insurance so that's out for now. Am I having a breakdown or what? Why do I feel as if I need to do something but I have no idea what it is? Serious answers only please.
2007-01-29 01:34:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Most of us have been there. I hate even thinking about it. But hold on. Tomorrow may bring better things, and you know sometimes it can actually get a bit worse. That's when you have to step back and laugh a bit. You only have a certain amount of control in your life. *&%$ happens. Do as much as you can do to make things better, and they will get better. Be patient with your self. I know having kids puts the pressure on even more. Do what you can do, and know that your kids will respect you for never giving up. While things look so gloomy remember you are actually teaching your kids a extremely valuable lesson. Do Not Give Up.
2007-01-29 01:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Elwood P. Dowd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are creating a lot of friction between logic (go out and get a job ASAP) and emotion (What's going on sought of thoughts). The carpet has been swept from under your feet and you never had a plan B (you never saw it coming coz nobody can). You are driven and a logical thinker but you need to consciously calm yourself down and take stock. Allow the thoughts about why you are where you are run freely in your mind (even the ones telling you you ignored the signs/ warnings). Try be a third party listening in. I find it helps me accept what is. When your mind stops arguing with itself (perhaps it's why you feel you are having a breakdown), focus on the ideal situation and set an achievable goal. Think about the first thing you need to do to achieve it. Just one thing towards the solution and then do it. The rest will fall into place after you take the first and most difficult step. I know it will. Been there done that! It is important to make extra effort with your appearance at this time so that you like the person looking back at you in the mirror. It also stops well meaning people asking questions you don't want to particularly answer or giving advise you'd rather do without. Nobody will feel sorry for you (including yourself) if you do not look a sorry sight love. I hope this helps and good luck.
2007-01-29 10:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by kahahius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are having a breakdown. I think that you are probably depressed because of lifes circumstances and your shoulders are really full. Some churches offer free counseling and there are also free groups that meet for depression. Read the local newspaper. It usually has an "Upcoming Events" section...the meetings should be listed there. Remember that when you go on an interview to be very upbeat. Walk in and speak to the employer with confidence. Stand out from the rest of the ones that will be interviewing. You will have a job in no time.
2007-01-29 09:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking that maybe the best thing you could do for yourself right now would be to call the county mental health department in your area and ask for an immediate appointment. At least you would have an objective opinion on what you could do to improve your state of mind and perhaps you could start on an anti-depressant to help to regain your equilibrium until things straighten out a bit for you.
Don't give up hope though. Life is like this sometimes. Think of this time as helping you gain strength and it will make you a more empathetic person when it's all over.
Good luck and God bless!
2007-01-29 11:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your position. I think everyone does at some time in thier lives.
I always try to think of how fortunate I am. I cancer nurse and see young people dying with no hope of recovery....what they wouldnt give to have problems as simple as ours.
Think positive, and self talk positive thoughts into your head. Do something you have never done before. Walk in the zero degree weather with the wind blowing in your face. Sign up for fun on online dating and chit chat. It gives you a great laugh and makes you feel better. Try a new recipe and invite your mother, your father or just a friend over with her kids to try it. clean house, listen to your favorite music on the radio and dance. Get your haircut.
I have done all of these during my saddest moments.
Your depressed, Life is going to get better for you.
2007-01-29 09:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about a thing, no breakdown. Your state of mind is absolutely normal in these conditions.
How would it look like if u felt so bad with no real reasons, with a boyfriend who loves you and a decent job, eh? Now that is when you sould start worrying cause your near depression
Everything is perfectly normal and it will go away,and i assure you it will, as soon as one or both of your issues get a remedy (boyfriend-job)
2007-01-29 09:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by thotty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋