2007-01-29 01:23:56 · 33 answers · asked by Joni J 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Since you asked..
Hell No !!!
If he can't get together gas $ to see his OWN KID...
What the hell kind of father is he ?
He isn't a father at all !!
If he did give a damn for your child he would have taken on an extra job for money to see his child.
If you have to give him money to ( Get him ) to see your child,
that right there should tell you something..
No Father is better then some piss poor excuse for a Father...
Tell me this is he yet another unemployed loser like other idiot men who father children and never take financial responsiblity let alone the nurturing and love it takes to raise a child, just to have there child grow up as idiots themselfs...like he obviously did.
And so the cycle continues...
SO I say a big NO to your question...
Should I give my ex money to see his OWN KID question...
You should be questioning yourself as a women and mother also..
Why would you even have to ask a question like that on the Internet..
Did you lose your common sence along the way ...
Give your head a shake...
Why would you even admit to your child that this was his/her father in the first place...
You should really be asking yourself that question first ...
Take responsiblity for your childs wellbeing !!
( ITS YOUR JOB AS A PARENT)
Find a REAL MENTOR and Father figure for your child ...
( Something you should have done way before you even had a child in the first place)..
Get this LOSER father out of your childs life for good before its to late...
Your child will appreciate it when it's older..
Do it before your child could really be affected by his / her fathers selfish and idiotic ways before its to late..Monkey see monkey do..
And go find yourself a Parenting 101 class some place for yourself... you sound like you could use the support !!!
Good Luck with your life, It sounds like your going to need it.
2007-01-29 03:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by SC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen I was in the same position 6 years ago when my ex left my 8 year old (14 now) and me in the dust. He would ask me for money and I would give it to him just so my daughter had some kind of contact with him. Well after a couple of months reality hit me in the face. He didn't care about his child...if he did....money or no money he would do anything to see his child no matter what. Even if he cared he can walk , ride a bike, get a ride from someone he would do anything. But of course my ex and looks like your ex are doing it for the cash. I stopped giving him cash and never said a bad word about him to my daughter. It turned out I dragged him to court to get money FROM HIM. He went for 2 years not seeing her...his choice..missing 3 birthdays , 2 Christmas. It turned out my daughter held it against him without a word from me and he knows it. Now I'm married to a great guy, who treats her like a father should and she looks at him as more as a father then her own father is. ALSO now a days child's support court is lot more forceful. If the man doesn't pay according to the ruling with one phone call to the court you can have a arrest warrant on his head and the next court date he can get arrested ...all for not paying....I know from experience
2007-01-29 01:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to consider this by thinking of MY ex, and I don't think I would. The reason? He doesn't make the time to come and see our son anyway (he visits or keeps him overnight about once every two months), and if he asked me for gas money, I would think it was just a way for him to get some of his child support money back. His alcohol was Always more important to him than his kids, or me.
2007-01-29 01:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal L ™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he really wanted to see his child then he would make a way to get there. I know that its not fair for the child but bribing his father by giving him gas money isn't fair to him/her either especially if they are old enough to know whats going on. I believe its best for the child in the long run to know what type of man their father really is.
2007-01-29 01:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Thumper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about your ex's happiness, be the bigger person and say, "I'll drive you to it", but if you're not invited, tell her she'll have to figure it out. When you get home, wonder (briefly) how in the hell your ex is going to make a marriage work they can't even afford to get to. Then remember that you are a free agent!
2016-03-29 07:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids well beaning has got to mean more to you than any bad feelings you have toward your ex. It will make you a better person if you help him see his child.
My first child support check is 37 years over due and I paid for him to fly across the country 2 times to see his sons!
This is heavily edited.
2007-01-29 01:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Star of Florida 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there done that. Children are very sensative and if it comes to me forking out a few dolllars so that my child can see her father, I'll do it, as long as it doesn't happen all the time.
There were times where I've heard that excuse and I ended up bringing her to him. Not for my ex's sake, but for my childs. You have to make sacrafices for your children to help them lead a normal life. It's bad enough that their parents aren't together.
2007-01-29 01:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by Nunya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you know it will be used for gas, and he won't ditch the child after getting the money
2007-01-29 01:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Somanyquestions,solittletime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, if he's a good influence on the kid. Probably would just drive the child to him or meet halfway, because that is money you need to help raise that child.
2007-01-29 01:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no,if he really wants to see your kid he shouldn't be making up stupid excuses.if he doesn't have any gas he can walk,take the train,ride a bike or whatever.don't give him any money or your going to end up giving him gas money all the time. i think your kid is better of.
2007-01-29 01:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋