Okay I have a question for you I want your honest answers people! Well almost 6 years ago I lost me grandmother due to heath problems and because of that I was given her 1st engagement ring (my grandfather had bought her a couple engagement rings: like a new one for there 25th anniversary and so on.)
I have this wonderful boyfriend and we have been together for 4 years now and we talk about marriage, babies, house and all that other future stuff. But when we talk about getting engaged I want him to give me my grandmother’s ring but he wants to buy me a new one.. Which I guess that would be fine because I could always switch between the two but see I only have three things to remember my grandmother by, memories, one picture and that ring..
I guess my question to you is if he would give me my grandmothers ring would that be weird and he tells me that it’s not his to give me but I tell him it is because it would mean more to me…. Is this weird!
2007-01-29 01:19:42 · 26 answers · asked by Myastar 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
here is my honest Answer.
An engagement ring is a symbol from the man to you to say he wants to commit to you for the rest of his life, This symbol is from his side.
You grandmothers ring is an air-loom and should be passed down to your daughter to pass it down to hers and so forth. It is a symbol of your Grandparents love not yours.
If you choose, give it to your first born son to let him give it to his future wife as an engagement ring. But its not for your fiance` to give back to you because you already have it.
Make your own love memory with your future hasband and keep the love memory of your grandmother in the family, thats what Id do
Good Luck
2007-01-29 01:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by diarubie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not weird that you feel that way. However, I understand his side and because to him getting engaged is very special to him also, he wants to give you something that is a part of him...an extension of his love that he can share with you. He cannot relate to your grandmother's ring because that is not from him and it is something that someone else had. It is sweet that you are sentimental about your grandmother's ring. Perhaps you can wear it on a chain around your neck. Let him rejoice and feel like he is giving you a part of him to you by getting you a ring.
2007-01-29 09:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Weasel Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesnt feel right giving you that ring because he didnt buy it, so he doesnt feel like he's giving you anything.. maybe you could work something out? tell him that the ring is very important to you, and that he can save the money he would've spent on a new engagement ring....and just get you an awesome wedding ring instead:)
2007-01-29 09:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joni B is right. Let him get you one! I wear my grandmother's wedding band with my own wedding band but not in place of it and it's really cool. My daughter wears my Mom's engagement ring on her right hand the the gorgeous set her husband bought her on the left hand. Your BF loves you and wants a ring to represent YOUR love together. Honor you late grandmother by wearing her ring on your right hand! Good luck.
2007-01-29 09:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by AKA FrogButt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wearing my mom's engagement ring and my grandmother's wedding ring. II actually FOUND my grandmother's ring in the cabinet above the sink when I bought her house after she died. t's not at all weird. It's romantic and it's wonderful!
I actually have no sentimental attachment to jewelry unless it has a story, and this definitely has a story!
2007-01-29 09:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by firefly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him give you the ring that he wants to you can always wear your grandmother's on the other hand or you can put it up and give it to your future son to give to a woman one day.
2007-01-29 09:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like he wants to get you something more personal. Something from him to you. Maybe you could use your grandmother's ring to complete the "wedding" ring set, and he could get you your own engagement ring.
2007-01-29 09:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by ♣ 4x4 ♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I can see his point. I would let him buy you a ring. Save the ring for your son if you have one and let him give it too his future wife if you want to keep it in the family.
2007-01-29 09:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not weird at all. If you want him to give you that ring for engagement, he should honor your request. After all he loves you right? He can get you a different ring(not an engagement one), which symbolizes his love. There are birthstones, rubys, emeralds, etc.
2007-01-29 09:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by locutus13ds_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two thoughts
1. You could have him add diamonds or stones to your grandmothers ring to make it more "yours and his" but keeping it hers as the foundation
2. He could buy you a really really nice wedding band with lots of stones
2007-01-29 09:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by stellabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋