Do I need help with bi-sexuality?

Question

I am physically attracted to girls, I love dating girls, I love sex with girls, but I can't seem to stop looking for sex with other guys, oral or even less. I don't find guys attractive, and I don't know what is driving this. I can't stop. Are there other people out there like this?

Answer 1

i have same situation,i would never kiss a man,but the thought of sex turns me on

Answer 2

First let me say you have constructed in yourself hetrosexuality, and an act of homosexuality. Sound close. sounds like you are saying your not a homosexual, but have the need for the homosexual act that can include oral sex, or less. It would help you if you could decide which one started first. I mean did you just feel one day you was attracted to the penis associated with another man. Have you always felt you was attracted to the penis of another man. Or does it envovle just you getting oral sex from another man. There could be several things that cause a predisposition in each seperate case.
Point is rather it is just a single act or even more, you could say you are bisexual. You have constructed hetrosexualality and homosexuality in yourself. You do not remember what the influence that started either of these do you. Because it is true, both hetrosexuality and homosexuality is constructed in a person. People are not born one way or the other. so First understand homosexualality is constructed, just like hetrosexuality is constructed.
The Formula For Constructing A Homosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way: A Predisposition
Toward Homosexuality Plus That First Homosexual Experience
Multiplied By Pleasurable and Positive Homosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added More Homosexual Experiences Multiplied By More Pleasurable Thoughts Constructs A Homosexual.

The Formula For constructing A Hetrosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way: A Predisposition
Toward hetrosexuality Plus That First Hetrosexual Experience
Multiplied By Pleasurable and Positive Hetrosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added More Hetrosexual Experiences Multiplied By
More Pleasurable Thoughts Constructs A Hetrosexual.
as i said you can not remember. I can give you a coulple of examples of how it might have happened.
Say you was about 4 years old, even 6 maybe. Say you had already started constructing hetrosexuality in yourself because of your surroundings, mommy and daddy kissing or hugging. That being the source to cause you to start construct hetrosexuality. All innoscently done . Say a boy of the same age or even older said he wanted to do something to you. Say he done some forplay, and then he gave you oral sex, you did not know it was wrong or different at your young age, and it was pleasurable to you. Totally innoscent. Then like most kids, you forgot about this experiance over time, maybe from time to time you remembered the experiance but forgot about the other boy, you remembered it was a boy though, you remembered the act was pleasureable ect....See how this situation could cause a predisposition in a child to constructing a homosexual act.
This was just an example. I am not saying it happened to you this way.

Answer 3

I have found that time has a way of solving this problem. While you are waiting for your hormones to calm down, actually get to know your male partners. By seperating and degrading them to simply sex acts, you are trying to justify the shame you feel. What will happen is that you will find a nice girl, get married because you will believe that will cure you. It won't, once the bloom is off the relationship you will seek out men, and become a cheater and a liar and take the risk of hurting your family, or worse.

You can avoid this by creating relationships with both genders, you will get a handle on what you really are responding to. It may be women, but it also may be men. You have to be prepared for that, and realize that your life partner may be of your own gender and you need to figure out how to have everything you want, especially if it is home and family. I suggest you get started with some personal counseling, you need to learn to cope now before you find love.

I've been bisexual all my life, and have had good relationships with both men and women, however my direction was a woman as I fell in love with a person, not a body part.

Enjoy your life, be careful and decide what speaks to you. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Bisexuality is defined by an attraction to both genders, you deny having this. So I think you're a straight guy with an (opportunistic) appetite.

I would suggest that it is your libido and a small element of doing that which is "forbidden". Just by virtue of the fact that you're keen to shag someone that is unappealing to you.

If you're in your late teens/early 20s then chances are this will settle down. Otherwise, you might want to seek sex addiction therapy.

Answer 5

I am sure there has to be others going thru the same thing. I dont know why you are so worried about it though hun. Why not just be you and do what you feel. If this whole male thing is really bothering you, then try focusing more on women and start going out with more of them. Its like quitting smoking, the nicottine is always there, but you can refuse it with self will power.

Good Luck

Answer 6

I like both men and women. I am married to a woman that I love much but it doesnt mean I stop thinking about men. There is nothing wrong with this just be safe and dont break your commitments

Answer 7

I'm a bit confused about the part where you say "I'm not attracted to guys".

Usually (I say usually) a guy who is NOT attracted to men, would have trouble searching for sex with other guys.

Something about men must be attracting you. (?)

Answer 8

personallity im straight but if your bi then just understand that your not alone in the world.

the world is changing and although your not sure of who/what you want to be just remember i feel the same about life and jobs etc - i dont think we need to understand why we are like this yet and i guess you have many years to work it out.

Answer 9

My buddy is like this. He is just totaly obsessed with sex, usually with girls, but when we're together, he'll never hesitate to ask for a bj

Answer 10

Well I am Bi too, although I have had relations with men I prefer women.