his girlfriend keeps interfering. she is the one that sends me emails, voicemails, etc. they are for the most part being nasty. am i obligated legally to discuss my son with her. she basically has tried to take over the mothering role of my son. he lives with me now, but i am really sick of having to deal with her. i think it is shawn's (my ex) job to communicate with me about my son, not hers. she keeps threatening to take me to court for custody. lol i think this absurd. can someone tell me from a legal stand point what my rights are?
2007-01-29 00:52:08 · 15 answers · asked by Tara F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you know what she has no rights whatsoever when it comes to your son and your ex should be telling her to stay out of it . Shows you what kind of man he is huh? Tell him that in no uncertain terms that if she keep up with the harassment then you will seek an injunction against her and you will keep your son away from her . Meaning she will have to leave the house when your son visits his father . See how your ex likes them apples and i bet you he will make her stay out of it then. And also tell him that you want the harassment to stop . telephone calls ,the emails everything must be stopped including the voicemails etc...And be serious if she still does not stop file the injunction against her . These are your rights . I used to work for a divorce attorney .
2007-01-29 03:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, verbally tell your ex that you will NOT discuss your son with his girlfriend. It is his job to communicate with you about your son. The girlfriend does not have a role in this situation.
Second, send written notice that you will NOT discuss your son with the girlfriend. Have the notice notiarized and served by a deputy or by USPS, return receipt requested. Keep a copy for yourself.
Third, consult an attorney and start paperwork to keep the girlfriend from contacting you. I recommend that she not be allowed contact with your son at all since her behavior toward you is threatening. Her behavior toward your son could change to the same type of her behavior or she could try to bend his ear telling him bad things about you.
Fourth, protect and love your son.
Good Luck.
2007-01-29 01:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone above. You need to document her behavior because it can be used against her in court. I had to do that with my ex (not his new wife) but it is considered harrassment. Hopefully she is not saying things to your son because she can get in big trouble for that. You definitely need to contact your lawyer and protect your son if they are being nasty. This will all work in your favor when you go to court. He cannot take your son away from you and the court will look unfavorably on his and her methods because he is allowing her to behave this way.
2007-01-29 02:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i work for a lawyer part-time and i cant really give you detailed advice but if you have cusotdy of the child now then why are you worried. Go hire a lawyer and make sure you have this in writing. its none of her business so dont answer the phone or email her. If she is becoming annoying take papers out on her. She will leave you alone then. Dont worry
2007-01-29 02:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Pretty Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has no legal right to contact you. I would suggest that you go to a local court and get a restraining order for her. Make sure it includes calling, texting, etc. Just show the judge her messages.
Also, notify your child's school, church ( and anywhere else he goes) that she is not to have contact with him. Legally, she should not be involved with anything to do with your son.
Yes, it's your ex-husbands job to contact you. Find an acceptable way for him to do that--it could be e-mail, text, or calls. He must contact you as you prefer.
2007-01-29 01:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Faith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by warrenfeltz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't be in the midle of it. Keep all the stuff she sends and use it against them during the legal custody case, stating that she is not a person that your son should be around, since she is nasty to his mom.
2007-01-29 01:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by DaintyCutie 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ok......... one it depends on what state your in..... 2 make sure that you have a court awarded custody and visitation order....... (wording differs from state to state. but basically its the courts findings of who has physical /legal custody of the minor children....) 3 keep any and all correspondance from either him or her... e-mails. messages.etc....... and take them down to the courthouse..... show them at your next custody hearing.or request a new one...and show the judge . they can in fact declare in court who has the right to say what is done with and for the children........... but the simple ansewer is no inmost states.only the biologial parents have any say in the childs welfare.but get a custody agreement stating this before they do attempt to go to court and have one drawn up that they want..........
2007-01-29 01:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by winter 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are not under any obligation to discuss your son or business with her at all... This is between you and his father only! She needs to stay out of it...You are right is is You exes place to communicate with you and not hers. You need to contact and attorney about this and see what advice they can give you on how you should handle this.
2007-01-29 02:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. You are not legally obligated to talk to her regarding your son. If she e-mails you again, tell her to have his father talk to you about it, because you will no longer discuss anything with her. She needs to BUTT OUT!. I have a step-son too, but I never interfere. I feel it is up to his parents to discuss what's they feel is best for him,not me. I care too, but I also realize ultimately, he's not my child. I will give my 2 cents if it is asked, but otherwise I stay out of it. Believe me, it is hard to bite my tongue sometimes, but I do.
If you and your exhusband can't agree, and fight whenever you try to talk, maybe find a mediator to help you, but definitely not his girlfriend. They aren't even married for Pete's sake.
2007-01-29 01:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋