I'm pregnant and might be going through bankruptcy, boyfriend wants an abortion because we have no money?

Question

I'm not sure what to do. We have just enough money to pay bills and my boyfriend says there is no way we could raise a baby. I'm trying to claim bankruptcy and keep my house where my parents and brother live. My boyfriend and I have an apartment with our 2 snakes 3 piranas 1 sucker fish 1 aligator and 2 ferrets. he says they are our babys. he wished his mother didn't have him when he was born cause they were broke and he grew up with a rough life. what should i do?

Answer 1

It doesn't cost anything to give a baby up for adoption, either. I am not anti-abortion -- that is your choice -- bud adoption is an option, too.

What do you spend to take care of your pets?

Babies don't need lots of money. What they do need are two parents in a committed relationship who love each other and want a baby to love, too. It doesn't sound like your boyfriend really wants a baby. Maybe money is an excuse.

Your are in a difficult place, with some tough decisions to make. Think long and hard. Do what is best for the baby. Best wishes.

Answer 2

properly i am going to assert this, being pregnant is a present. My chum can't have any and she or he's lacking area of her life i do no longer imagine she ought to ever replace. i encourage of you now to not have an abortion. i am going to't bypass over each and every of the experts and the cons of abortion because it is a own selection. (i'm adverse to it in my view). even though it is a life you're wearing and it is meant to be. when you're pregnant now, and if he loves you want he says he does, he will settle for this. If he breaks up with you because of this, then fairly FRANKLY , he's not for you. How can he make you or go with you to abort the youngster you've made jointly? I under no circumstances understood that kinda stuff. adult adult males are such humorous humorous strange animals. To precise all of it off NO OFFENSE, IF HE became SO no longer waiting to HAVE a infant NOW THEN WHY did not HE USE COINDOMS each and every of the time WITH YOU? appears like a crock of horse **** extremely and it appears like he needs to get busy and performance couchie couchie LOL yet no longer pay the outcomes even as some thing like "OH hello HUNNY, i'm pregnant." is composed of play. I say this... stand your floor hunny and performance that infant. woman are a lot more desirable mature any way. See the way you've began reasoning the actual incontrovertible actuality that ok you're finished with college, he's practically finished, you imagine you could manage it financially blah blah blah. you've already started to solidify this condition on your ideas and beginning to practice. He ought to do the same. Remeber this too.. this infant.. she or he... may be the subsequent American Idol LOL (hello do not snort they make allot of money LOL),. or a scientist or a nobel peace prize winner or the the fitst lady president. imagine about that? Peace and far love and that i "wish" you're making the right determination. Jennifer ** Please note that is coming from a woman (it is me LOL) it is NOW as I kind 37 weeks pregnant and practically about to grant start interior the subsequent 19 days to her first infant lady. I waited a lengthy time period for this and that i'm thrilled and also you ought to be too.

Answer 3

Find out what you really want. If you want this baby then have it.
One of the worst things is listening to others (your loved ones or friends) and then base your decision on their views or comments. What I am trying to say is that if you have an abortion just because your boyfriend can't get over the fact he had a rough childhood, you in turn could resent him.

Not everyone had a good childhood, but some of us look on the bright side of things. Sounds like you are surrounded by his negativity and he needs to step up to the plate and start thinking of others.

This is a big decision, one which requires life changes, probably starting with your financial situation. Get rid of those pets if they are too costly and start banking your money for your baby.

Maybe the best thing for you to do is to really figure out what you really want, go from there and anything is possible. Make it work!

Good luck.

Answer 4

Ultimately it is your decison. That may be unfair but that's the way it is. You need to decide if you want to raise your baby (possibly alone), if you want to give him/her up for adoption, or have an abortion.

Nobody can tell you whether an abortion is right or wrong for you. It is a serious decision that can have serious psycological ramifications for the rest of your life. I will tell you that most of the people I know who put a child up for adoption do not regret that decision and were not haunted by thoughts of their child every minute of every day.

I was also brought up by a single mom who was poor. And I don't regret being poor. Poor is what it is, as long as a kid has enough food and some clothes what do they care. Mind you I grew up in a poor neighbourhood where I was actually better off than a lot of people. My husband grew up in an upper middle class neighbourhood but his family wasn't. I wouldn't say they were poor, but they didn't throw money around like the other families. While he noticed the difference, he never really cared, always had lots of friends. He thought his friends were silly for buying name braned shirts *lol*

It is up to you, but you have limited time in which to make a decision. Do get counselling if you can, try contacting WIC they will likely be able to help you.

Take care.

Answer 5

Please find a Crisis Pregnancy Center in your area (see link below). They offer free over-the-counter pregnancy tests and many offer free sonograms. They are a better alternative than "Planned Parenthood" which is a group that is financially INVESTED in making sure that you choose abortion. They are very successful at this because they purposefully hide information about your baby’s development and don’t offer sonograms so that you can see your baby. They tell you abortion is “routine” and that it is a “minor procedure”, but then when you are hurting emotionally afterwards, they tell you you’ll just “get over it”.

Did you know that most abortionists don’t even do a sonogram first to find out how far along the baby is? They just take the mother’s word for it as to how many weeks gestation she is, and they start the abortion anyway. Many women find out that they miscalculated and are further along than they thought, sometimes into the second trimester. This happened to me. I thought I was 12 weeks, but after the abortionist finished, he nonchalantly told me “sorry it took so long…your baby was a bit further along than 12 weeks.” I was so shocked that I couldn’t say anything. I couldn’t even bring myself to ask how far along the baby was. If they had done their due diligence, they should have found that out, informed me, and let me make my choice based on the facts. As it was, they just decided to go forth anyway and inform me in passing. It still sickens me to this day.

Crisis Pregnancy Centers truly offer information about ALL alternative choices for a pregnant woman, and then they back it up by actually providing FREE help with any of those alternatives; referrals to government agencies for help, as well as private non-profits and individuals who selflessly give help and support to women having a difficult time dealing with an unplanned pregnancy. After the birth, they also provide free baby clothes, formula, diapers, wipes, nursery furniture, counseling services, parenting classes, and too many other things to mention here. The women who work there are largely volunteers whose goals are to HELP women and children, not to lead them down the path of heartbreak and guilt that inevitably follows abortion. They truly care about BOTH the baby AND the mother.

God bless.

http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantage.asp

Answer 6

I am sorry, every time I hear someone complain about being broke or poor I get pissed off. There is ALWAYS a way out. It is called hard work, working 2 or three jobs if need be, going to school, the government pays if you have no money. Go to a temp agency and get your foot in the door at a company, and work your way up. There is always a way out if you want it. If you are not ready to be parents, which it does not sound like you are, use protection.

Answer 7

Regretfully you are in the process of now choosing your baby over your boyfriend. That's very sad and you should feel sad. You can't have both and have a happy life. He so obviously does not want this child. And he so obviously is living off of you. The money you save from not feeding all the animals will feed your child. Dump the BF; save your baby.

Answer 8

One only you know what you can afford not your friends. So your boyfriend would rather kill his own child and keep his exotic pets. You seem to have enough money to live now and raise those pets, I say find a new home for your pets and use the money you raise them with for your child ya'll have choose to make. I can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you to do whatever you feel you can live with for the rest of your life and be happy.

Answer 9

You should go to a crisis pregnancy center. You have no clue what will happen in the next few years. Your boyfriend sounds like a loser. Poor isn't forever, if you don't want it to be. Work hard and you'll make it. I don't know where you live but there are SO MANY GOVERNMENT PROGRAMS out there to help you. Also, why are you the owner of a house that you don't live in?

Answer 10

Put the baby up for adoption. There are places that will help you pay for the whole pregnancy and find a loving family to raise your child. You'll never forget an abortion.