if you met someone who had "low self-esteem", would you have a low opinion of them?

Question

or would you make up your mind about him/her based on your own judgement, rather than how s/he sees him/herself?

Answer 1

"Yes, someone who doesn't love him/herself can't have much love to share with others."-can there be any more narcissism in this statement?
And my answer is no, you wount think low about such kind of a person.
It will be quite the opposite, you will think more than he is

Answer 2

That would depend. First I would have to get to know them; I *try* (and it's hard sometimes) not to form a complete opinion of them the first time I meet them. But when I did, I'd know what their general outlook on life and on other people is, and if they are trying to work through their problems or if they are simply giving in to low self-esteem. I know people who think lowly of themselves but are generally optimistic people, and I can get along with them fine. Especially if they are making some effort to change their view of themselves. People who are martyrs or victims of their own minds and refuse to get help, well, they might be ok as a friend, but what can you do for them? You can't force them to change, and eventually being around them is wearisome.

The occasional situation of low self-esteem produced by abuse is different; that is a case in which I would, I hope, do something to get them help. Even so, empowerment has to at least in part come from within.

Answer 3

Most people project the kind of image they feel they personally have and I know its not fair or warranted but definitely in the business world first impressions are huge. If you don't emote confidence and security with yourself not many would get a meaningfull interview. Whereas in social settings people will gravitate towards those that they feel less threatened by. I would not pass judgement immediately about someone because we all put on different fronts based upon what we feel will bring us the most acceptance in a group. I wait to see the real person and that can take awhile.

Answer 4

Usually body language would give away someone who has low self-esteem which would affect my initial opinion negatively. But If I spoke to them, then my opinion may change, depending on how they put themselves across. If they are negative when speaking, then it may be hard to put a positive spin on their personality. It's all down to the subject in question, and the observer in the end.

Answer 5

My judgments of others are based upon how the person interacts with those around him/her. Low self esteem does not mean that they are a bad person... they just doubt themselves. Sometimes what we think overly affects what we do... but if a person has kindness in them and shows that kindness to others, its kind of hard to rate a low opinion.

Answer 6

I have known two people who had severe self esteem issues and while I tried for several years to maintain a positive attitude and always reinforce the positives about them, they eventually wore me down until my opinion of them mirrored their own. So I would say that I would make up my own mind about them initially, but if they persist with their own low opinion of themselves, it will eventually change my opinion of them to match.

Answer 7

I would make up my own mind, because usually people with low self-esteem have been given that by others. They think less of themselves than is really true...I would like to help them build it up!!!

Answer 8

My opinion would be that someone in their life had caused their condition and I would try to stay close to them and feed their self-esteem with only TRUE things they honestly have and try to bolster that self-esteem. Good Luck!! @8-)

Answer 9

Never... U can never judge a person, why he is having low esteem... i will try to make him optimistic towards life

Answer 10

I judge people by their actions and not by their looks or opinions. A person can tell or look nice but they can be mean inside.