why do i always get the blame? why is it always my fault?

Question

Ive been with my b/f for 3yrs this year i love him very much, we have a child together which we had quite early on in the relationship. When we first got a flat together everything was ok then baby came along and we was both getting tired and argued alot.so we moved to a house which is now easier for me to go out with baby, we still argued and my b/f moved out then i got paranoid & started sending him fake emails from his x he found out and said there is no way were sorting this out, i threatend to kill myself cause he dont believe i love him. Since then we have sorted things out and were finally becoming a family again, but he is distant with me and blames me for everything, our baby had his phone this morning and now the sim is missing i get the blame. he also asks me to go out withhim i say yes then he says dont want u to come, he meets his friend every thurs n is going out 2 days on top of that i dont get to go out cause my family n friends live away i feel like s**t cause of this

Answer 1

Ur bringing this on Ur self. It's easy to blame some one else. U need to open up the lines of communication. The 2 of U need to have a heart 2 heart talk about things that R bothering U & what's making U feel like U do. One doesn't talk about suicide, that's nothing but a call 4 help or attention. U need 2 live with the responsibilities U have, with or without him. Ur not married to him R U? That's bothering U 2. U have to be able 2 talk or there will be no relation ship. Act like a mother & deal with things as they R. I hope this helps or gives U something 2 think about. Good luck

Answer 2

u need to move on seriously.. u've done a lot of dumb immature things in the name of love supposingly!!! Babies always put stress on a relationship cause now it's like having a threesome and someone is no longer gonna have any freedom and that sounds like u.. u and ur bf need to sit down and have a serious convo cause just cause u and him now have a baby together doesn't mean u and him have to stay together.. he's obviously no good for u and u need help.. listen to u or reread what u wrote.. u threatened to KILL urself just for him to believe u.. u need to grow up, get professional help and focus on ur life as being a MOTHER, that's more important then ur relationship w/ur so-called babydaddy!!!!!